← Previous PostHello Evie! I have a question related to discussing gender preferences inoffensively. Although I like both men and women, I am not as comfortable with dating heterosexual men within the BDSM community because I have heard horror stories about abusive men becoming doms just to take advantage of newbie subs. This topic may come up in future conversations when I share my background; how do I explain my concerns in a way that makes it clear I am just trying to be safe and am not a raving man-hater? →