TBH I’m so turned on by sweet and calm sadists.

Like, no matter how much of a brat you are no matter how much you cry and beg and struggle they just smile down at you and stroke your hair and continue doing whatever the fuck they want to do.

As someone who generally is very good at pushing people’s buttons and enjoys winding people up until they react, the person who just ignores it all and continues to completely and openly enjoy my pain and humiliation without feeling the need to so much as raise their voice? Very very hot.

Shout out to all you sadists like this who were worried you wouldn’t be considered a “real sadist” because you’re not brash and loud.

One of the nicest sadists I know weighs maybe 110 pounds.  She’s quiet.  Understated.  Even sweetly understanding.  Nowhere near as brash and outspoken as her masochist partner.  But she’s evidently very good at what she does.  (He certainly thought so!)

And relentless.

As in linguistics, life is so much more workable when we remember that language is descriptive, not prescriptive.