arabwife:

switch your mentality from “i’m broken and helpless” to “i’m growing and healing” and watch how fast your life changes, for the better.

Made a world of difference for me, actually.

Years ago I visited a friend with a catastrophically broken leg.  I said how are you doing and they said “for someone who just broke their leg I’m doing great.”  The objective fact was they were looking at traction, surgery, and months of rehab.  But subjectively they were looking ahead instead of looking back.

Years later, facing a catastrophically broken heart I remembered.  And said the same thing.  That helped me look forward instead of back.  Objectively I still broken up with.  Objectively I still faced months of grief, numbness, and regret.  But subjectively?  I healed and grew.  Instead of ending my life.