Ever notice how rarely men in porn look directly into the camera? Even nominally “dominant” ones? In fact, men in poem typically look passive and almost disengaged. Again, even ones who are supposedly Doms.

My gues would be it’s cause porn manufacturers assume audiences are still primarily male, and so any engagement with viewers by male performers would be seen as confrontation or competition. (Successful competition no less considering who gets to do the actual fucking vs only watching!)

But I’m prepared to be wrong. Maybe a lot of women find being topped by disengaged, deferential, “just doing my job” men is sexier?

I dunno. But when I’ve got you bound and helpless, with my hand in your hair or mouth, and you’re melting from the inside out around my dick I’m right in your ear, whispering questions, encouragement, promises, appreciation, and just generally being right there with you.

But maybe that’s just me. Maybe I’m just doing it all wrong.

What do you think?