Feel sorry for the folks who imagine a grudging “I guess so” is as good as it gets.  Or needs to get.

Consent is, like, a basic ground-level, oxygen-in-the-room minimum requirement.

Sex isn’t like the wry airplain pilot quip that “any landing you can walk away from is a good landing.”

Sex isn’t like American-rules football where it’s ok to say “an ugly win is still a win.”

Sex – kinky no less than vanilla – is supposed to satisfy everybody.  Where nobody else gets to say what “satisfied” means for anybody else.

If you don’t have not just “consent” but an excited “oh yes” then U R Doing It Rong.  Or your partner is.  Or both of you are.