I am sick and tired and stressed and sassed my Dom my punishment was that I was kicked out of his bed for one week… It’s been two days and I think I’ve maybe gotten 4 hours of sleep total… Is it possible to safeword out of a punishment… (I ask as I lay here tossing and turning on the couch not even remotely close to sleeping)

danipup:

instructor144:

Yes, you can safeword out of a punishment. Immediately follow it with a meta talk so you can explain that this punishment is damaging  you. No responsible Dom wants to damage their sub.

reblogging for “no responsible dom wants to damage their sub.”

And I’m going to add that it’s not even just about responsibility – no real Dom wants to damage their relationship with their Sub!

Regardless of kink, if your relationship partner is fucking sick and stressed out that’s a really stupid time to kick them out of their own bed, isn’t it?  Even if they “sassed” you.

I dunno. I’m a Daddy, not a Dom, and I’m happier with Little partners than Submissives.  So maybe I’m a really bad judge of how D/S relationships are supposed to work.  But I can say with 100% authority that if you’re not both feeling satisfied with your kinky relationship then you’re both doing something wrong.  So this is a perfect time to safeword.  And, yeah, to have a serious relationship conversation too.