If Your life was a genre of porn, what would it be? Now I know You are going to say dom/sub so let’s take away that option. What’s your next option?

herleadingman-deactivated201810:

Well My life isn’t exactly as it needs to be right now, so it is more like the “Denial and Torture” genre to be honest.

HLM

Yes!  This!  “Dom” and “Sub” are NOT THE ONLY OPTIONS!  This is a source of extreme frustration for actual Doms and actual Subs, who are a (heh) subset of everyone in kink!  Possibly a rather small subset!

Consider the number of people who use submission as an excuse to edge and deny themselves because it just feels really, really good to edge and edge and edge.  Because compared to the drop they feel after coming if feels really good to stay a turgid and/or drippy mess instead.  

Consider the number of masochists and sadists who aren’t interested in following through with the structure or obedience of D/S – never intend to set achievable rules or to obey reasonable ones –  because all they really want are opportunities for “punishment” (a.k.a. torture.)

Point being there’s more letters in BDSM that D and S.  And a whole alphabet of kink beyond the letters B, D, S, and M.

Collect the whole set!  See which ones you really like!  Chances are you’ll be happier.  Your partners will be happier too.  And chances are actual Doms and Subs will be pretty damn happy too.