My dom is wanting to start oral/deep throat training with me. If I remember correctly, you’ve mentioned doing this training as well? Do you have any toys that youd specifically recommend so that I may have an idea of what we’ll be using and have some input on what might be best for me?

danipup:

lovemysub:

danipup:

hi there :)

(disclamer before i begin: this is great! but only if you also want to participate in this training as well, okay? it’s not a requirement that all submissives have to enjoy this, or any other act for that matter. the best partner is a consenting, willing, enthusiastic one.)

okay, so if the goal is deep throating, as in, getting it as far down in your throat as you can, go for something with a little more length than girth, and you definitely want something flexible and with give, not, like, a solid/unbendable fake dick.  i practice with this one, which is phthalate-free and made of body-safe material. it still tastes pretty icky, though, especially when it’s in the back of your throat. but honestly, personally speaking, i could have the best tasting dildo in the world fucking my face and it’s never going to taste as good as he does.  (if the taste really does bother you, though, you could put something flavored on it. oh, also, that one i linked is technically a dildo made for anal play, but i’ve only every used it for throat training.)

also, your, or your dom’s mileage may vary, but here’s another way i started to switch things up when it comes to throat training. when I first told him one afternoon that i’d taken it the furthest down my throat i’d been able to up until that point (the thing is like 10″ inches long), he said to me “i’m proud of you, pup, but that would really only be useful for me if I had a 10″ long cock.” 

(which cracked me the hell up, as the things he says often do. ????)

but he had a reeeeally good point, which changed the game for me. instead of thinking about it like some kind of contest where you’re trying to win some Deepest Ever Mouth Dicking™ trophy, focus on the stamina of it. your endurance. how long you can keep your throat open for him while he’s fucking it.  and sure, training can absolutely (and as i prefer it, should) involve being able to take it deeper down your throat. and with regularity, it does, or can, decrease your gag reflex and in some cases eliminate it altogether. (you can also make the"toothbrush training” thing part of your everyday routine – brushing your tongue as far back as you can before gagging. and/or the “thumb trick” – putting your left thumb against your palm & wrapping your fingers around it so you have a fist with your thumb in the middle – to help things along.)

but the being able to take it for longer, to keep it my throat for increasingly extended periods, and to associate those sensations with him (and, typically, the njoy plug in my ass while i’m training) – that’s what i’ve really come to enjoy about it most of all.  

and here’s another thing about deepthroating that, from what i’ve noticed, doesn’t really get talked about all that much.  

if you sometimes gag or choke on his cock while you’re doing it? don’t necessarily associate that with failure! god, sometimes, doing either of those things gets me more into it, is the thing that increases me wanting to devour him, makes me feel feral and primal-y about it, kicks up my enthusiasm, like ten fucking fold, and it often makes it all suuuuuuper messy, which i absolutely love. and a lot of guys like that, too.  (i stop short of puke, though, because ew. some people are into it; not us.)

anyway, my point is, everyone on the receiving end is going to be different about what they like and prefer, but the idea is to not get hung up on some idea that deepthroating is this “perfect” technique you absolutely have to measure up to as a sub. sure, it’s a worthy goal by its most commonly understood definition, and i understand if a relationship dynamic makes that a mutually-agreed upon goal, but if it doesn’t? don’t let it restrict you and get you hyperfocused on the perfection of it.  frankly, i just think that keeps you from having wayyyy more fun. 

i hope this was helpful, cheers :)

– dani

This is very well answered, Daisy. The only thing I would add is that, while you train, I always have you edging yourself as well because I want you to form that association of having a cock in your throat with being incredibly turned on and drippy. Not that you need a lot of help in that department, but I think it’s a good thing to positively reinforce, and is a helpful tip for others looking to do this type of training.

Thank you for taking the time to answer this anon in such detail. As always, you bring me great pride ❤️

-LMS

oooooh, yes! a very important and happy-feels addition, sir. ❤️

And being an old consent curmudgeon when I read shit like “My dom is wanting to start oral/deep throat training with me.” My first thought was “how progressive of him, try not to make him gag him shin you hit the back of his throat.”

So big hats off to @danipup for that excellent “if you want to” before all the rest of her excellent advise.

Also big hats off to @lovemysub for his point that edging while learning to go down on on one’s partner is a great way to form positive associations.