A healthy relationship keeps the doors and windows open. Plenty of air is circulating and no one feels trapped. Relationships thrive in this environment. Keep your doors and windows open. If this person is meant to be in your life, all the open doors and windows in the world won’t make them leave.

However you play, rough or vanilla, joyfully poly or meticulously monogamous, this is so worth the effort.  The question isn’t whether it’s easy or hard, or right or wrong, or smart or unwise.  Those are all opinions.  Instead, the question is does it work.