One of the most pernicious myths about romance is that the perfect partner “completes you.”

We’re not jigsaw puzzles with missing pieces.  And even if we were you can’t grab a piece from someone else’s puzzle to complete yours.  And even if you could it would be messing up their puzzle, wouldn’t it?

Look for lovers who’ll have your back.  Who’ll stand with you.  Lock arms with you.  Stick up for you.  And don’t wimp out.  Look for lovers you can stand by, with, and for.