So much of porn is caught up vanilla anxiety and shame, with the result that all we usually see are presentations of Submission reeking of coercion, force, fear, and pain. As if it was unwanted, unsatisfying, traumatic, and wrong.
As a result we rarely get to see how much pride there is in actual Submission.
That’s what real topping is all about.
It’s about getting to say “good girl” and meaning it.