bruiseddollx:

When doms grab you by the jaw and smoosh your cheeks in a little then trace their thumb across your bottom lip. Mhm.

I… like to do that! Little bit cruel but always tempered with a little reassuring sweetness. So you feel like you’re on an adventure and not an ordeal.

Don’t forget that Submission is its own kink, feel sorry for Doms who do…

So if you don’t think Submission is its own, independent, autonomous, and equal kink and is instead all about your masterly/mistressly domly self then try the following thought experiment: how long would they stay with you if you stopped topping them?

If they’re only Submissive because you’re Dominant the correct answer will be “forever, of course, because I’m so awesome they’re magically magnetized to me!”  If they’re Submissive because Submission is its own craving though… its own kink…

Well…

The correct answer might be something else, hmm?

This is just one of the reasons why I capitalize the S in Submissive as well as the D in Dom.

all the guys ive been with have been so greedy so i have never actually gotten to sit down in front of a dick and actually explore it the way I want to, its always dictated by them like do this and do that amd facefucking and sometimes i didnt even want to. i just want to be with a nice guy and i want to feel a desire for his body and get to touch him and taste him because i want to, the way i want to, not unwillingly be dictated by him. is that crazy?

ball-deep:

not crazy at all having sex is like being part of a team, you should be striving towards the benefit of everyone involved

it takes two to tango, and if both of y’all ain’t getting what they want then what the fucks the point?

Ok.  Look.  Doesn’t matter how ding-dang-diddly Domly you are, if you’ve got a dick… and a body for that matter… you’ve got to give your sweetie a chance to get to know you like this.

As a near-obligate top this lesson was unbelievably hard to learn, by the way.  But someone said “let me do this, I need you to.”  And so I did. But it turned out to be so worth it that I can honestly say I wasn’t a good lover till I let her discover me.

Because we can get so tied up (haha) with our notions about CNC and domination and power exchanging and (for us D/Lg types) “Daddy knows best,” plus 10,000 gendered jokes it’s easy to forget that our partners actively want us too!

Kinky partners are still partners! 

semperfi4life:

My intentions are pure, my thoughts are not.

This, actually. I’m a very earnest kinky Daddy. I’ll cheerfully fuck your freshly spanked ass without loosening my grip on the belt around your throat, and then solemnly stay up all night helping you prep for a big presentation in the morning, make you breakfast, and mean it when I say, from the bottom of my heart, “go get em, tiger.”

Sensual, consensual bondage because you want to feel everything. Shall we dance?

You’ve heard of orgasm denial, I’m sure. And forced orgasms too (though tbh I’m not sure how many people really say “no, don’t give me an orgasm!”)

But me? I’m into consensual orgasms. I’m declaring it part of consensual Domination, which I’m starting to adore.

“If you agree to come to my office with me I’m going to kiss you passionately in the elevator, manhandle you while I open the door, bend you over my desk, reach between your legs, and rub your little button until you come.

Would you like me to do that to you?

Good girl!”