fucked up that we don’t make belts with loops for holding blades or pouches for storing coins and dried herbs anymore
Hmm. Why would anybody think a plain old belt was sexier than one with built-in pouches and pockets and sheathes and holsters with auxiliary thigh straps, cuddlebug? I mean, all a D/Lg Daddy can do with a regular belt is double it in his big strong hand… 😏
(Don’t get me wrong! As a former professional journeyman leatherworker those other kinds of belts are so much fun to make, and they really are good for carrying swords or hammers or coins or dried herbs! But take it from an expert: plain old Daddy belts are just soo much better for spanking naughty Little elves and minxes, aren’t they?)
This, actually. I’m a very earnest kinky Daddy. I’ll cheerfully fuck your freshly spanked ass without loosening my grip on the belt around your throat, and then solemnly stay up all night helping you prep for a big presentation in the morning, make you breakfast, and mean it when I say, from the bottom of my heart, “go get em, tiger.”
You’ve heard of orgasm denial, I’m sure. And forced orgasms too (though tbh I’m not sure how many people really say “no, don’t give me an orgasm!”)
But me? I’m into consensual orgasms. I’m declaring it part of consensual Domination, which I’m starting to adore.
“If you agree to come to my office with me I’m going to kiss you passionately in the elevator, manhandle you while I open the door, bend you over my desk, reach between your legs, and rub your little button until you come.
It’s little things like when I take my belt off while just changing pants and I turn around and there you are all bent over.
When folks get that Masochism and Submission are their own, independent kinks it’s a lot harder to mistake D/S or S&M for abuse.
Because it’s not always about consent, is it? No, consent is just the bare minimum requirement. An older, experienced gentleman waits till he knows you’re hungry for it. Because only a total toolbag would do it if you weren’t.
Maybe so. But pretty sure you wouldn’t mind if instead I looked in your eyes, softly caressed your cheek, and said “I’m going to bend you over my desk and take them off for you.”
Notice how carefully and almost gently he’s spanking her? Also notice how he’s already warmed her up? Surprised? Please don’t be. That’s the way you do it!
Folks who don’t understand kink imagine spanking is always aggressive, punitive, and hard as possible – you know, the way angry parents, teachers, and frat boys do it.
But really, while yes you’ll find capital-M Masochists who genuinely thrive on serious pain, for almost everyone else the key isn’t how hard you’re spanked but how well.
I mean, look. It’s like pretty much everything else in sex, right? Yes, you can just jam an object inside someone without warming them up, or start jacking a guy with no warmup, or stick your tongue down someone’s throat on the first kiss. And yes, you can find people who like that too!
But most people don’t. And therefore, kinksters being people and all, most kinksters don’t care much for it either.
I’m always saying “don’t do it the way they do it in porn.” Let me just add “don’t do it the way angry parents, teachers, and frat boys do it either.”
