This is about ethics and humiliation play, with a quick dad’splain about ethical exhibitionism.
Ok. So. If you’ve got an exhibitionist kink it’s still unethical to involve others without their consent. So while it’s super hot to think about, and really hot to be in semi-public situations where you could almost get caught, it’s a total dick move to expose either yourself or a partner where unsuspecting people might see you.
This is actually well understood in the kink community. And exhibitionism is its own kink.
Now let’s consider humilation play.
Not everyone’s into humiliation, anymore than everyone’s into exhibitionism (or any other kink!) But! For some people humilation play is hot as blazes!
I have to admit I didn’t really get it till a submissive friend explained it. And then melted into a yummy little horny mess when I tried it. (It wasn’t a hard limit for me but till I got the hang of it I probably needed more aftercare than she did!)
Anyway. Just as the risk (and possible shame, incidentally) of being seen is usually hot enough, the idea of humiliation and shame is usually hot enough too.
But as with exhibitionism, never involve third parties in your erotic humiliation play without their consent either.
One of my other favourite things is knowing a girl is shy but also that she is secretly a freak and having fun with the shyness.
Getting her all flustered making her ask for things and watching her hide her head and blush and she stutters and stammers and makes whining noises so you tell her to point or use her hands or yours to show you what she wants and needs.
Then watching as she gets even more flustered and embarrassed but know that you know exactly what’s going on and she just becomes silly, confused and loses her composure completely as you sweetly whisper filth into her ears.
Knowing you’re shy but that you’re having fun with it!
This is the key part, isn’t it?
I wouldn’t humiliate you for the world about anything genuinely hard or painful for you. That’s just bullying, plain and simple and there’s no room for that anywhere in kink.
But giving you a chance to blush about being cool on the outside and a wriggly squeak in the inside? I wouldn’t be much of a Daddy if I didn’t want to have fun with that, would I, kittenclaws?
! Nothing to be ashamed of, is there, pumpkin? You’re a grown woman – an adult with a good education no less. So you can desperately hump aaaaanything you want to, can’t you? Nobody’s going to call you a needy, or pathetic, or tell you to stop hunching your little pussy against my leg like a stray puppy needing attention, are they?
Goodness! I’m sure I’d never tease you for something like that!
i get wet from being teased and humiliated and i get even more wet from being teased and humiliated about how wet i am!!!! it is a dangerous game!!!!
I…
Yeah…
This is one of the best kinds of humiliation play though! Cause I can’t tease you for being turned on unless you’re turned on. And I can’t tease you for getting more turned on by my teasing unless being teased about it actually turns you on!
Plus if we didn’t both want you to be really turned on we wouldn’t bother playing that game in the first place, would we?
And finally, it’s the best kind of play because as opposed to other kinds of power-gradient play and, especially, darker humiliation play, the “aftercare” is going to feel pretty good too, isn’t it?
“Wow, I was really horny, wasn’t I?” “Yeah, teaspoon, you really were, weren’t you?” “Thank you, it was awesome” “No, thank you, you’re wonderful” “No, thank you!”
Boys your age might mock you for desperately rubbing and humping against anything you can, my dear, but an older, experienced Daddy understands that his adorable, eager new puppy just needs to wag her tail in his lap, doesn’t he?
This is actually my favorite kind of (mild) “degradation” because objectively that’s what’s supposed to happen! And when we’re not in sex-space we can’t look back and say “did you really mean that?”
I’ve actually learned how to be more degrading if that’s what turns you on. But afterwards I’m going to need a little aftercare too – cause even if you already know I didn’t mean it, I’m going to need to give you a lot of cuddly attention so that I’ll know you know.
In other words, it’s almost a boundary for me, and one I can cross with encouragement, but still the kind of thing that gives me the jimmies. Because if I don’t like you and respect you and generally feel pretty frickin’ impressed with you I’m rarely interested in more than a warm handshake.
By Thomas Oldenough | June 23, 2019 | Comments Off on No, seriously, I’ll only say ever nasty things if i really, really like you…
Because, seriously, I am not going to do any of those things unless I really know, trust, and like you very, very much, dimpletoes. And not till I’m sure you want those things done.
