What a fun question!  Thanks for asking!  Cockwarming (or cock-warming, or cock warming) is essentially intercourse with a penis without moving.  There are sometimes D/S or exhibitionist overtones but it can also be 100% vanilla.  

For instance, in vanilla terms it can just be “spooning plus” where two people cuddle or fall asleep while connected.

As exhibitionism or risk-taking it can be surreptitiously sitting on a man’s cock at a party, an event, or, say, at the beach.

As D/S it can be a form of service, discipline, or denial where one or both of you perform unrelated activities after penetration, with various rewards or consequences for losing control and starting to move and/or losing arousal.

That bit about losing arousal is actually pretty realistic.  While we hear about perfectly motionless intercourse lasting for hours in, say, stories about “tantric” sex, most people need at least a little bit of ongoing stimulation to stay hard or wet.  The good news is that it’s often the thought that counts.

Finally, hmmm… as I usually do I did a couple of quick searches to see if there was anything I was missing and the answer was yes!  Unfortunately, Google’s Ngram service only goes through 2008 and records no hits in the last 200 years, so it’s a pretty new term. The first use I could find on Google was from Etsy, which offered novelty knitted or crocheted penis cozies sometime after 2012.  According to Google it first showed up with its current meaning on the Urban Dictionary in early 2014. (Yes, I am such a nerd!)

But!!! One reason it might have noticed seeing it more often might be because the term seems to have been picked up recently in Korean k-pop lyrics and fan-fic. There are a ton of references and/or images of k-pop stars associated with the use of the term.

So there you go!  Totally nerdy Daddy-splaining answer that was fun to research.  Thanks so much for asking!

But p.s.  It’s also awfully fun to do… and while it might be super hard to stay completely still it’s awfully fun to cheat, whether it’s with slow, sleepy wriggles while spooning, or mischevious grinding squeezes and shifting while lap sitting.  A perfect way to start or end a sleepy, lazy Sunday morning, hmm?

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