When doms grab you by the jaw and smoosh your cheeks in a little then trace their thumb across your bottom lip. Mhm.
I… like to do that! Little bit cruel but always tempered with a little reassuring sweetness. So you feel like you’re on an adventure and not an ordeal.
This, actually. I’m a very earnest kinky Daddy. I’ll cheerfully fuck your freshly spanked ass without loosening my grip on the belt around your throat, and then solemnly stay up all night helping you prep for a big presentation in the morning, make you breakfast, and mean it when I say, from the bottom of my heart, “go get em, tiger.”
It’s little things like when I take my belt off while just changing pants and I turn around and there you are all bent over.
When folks get that Masochism and Submission are their own, independent kinks it’s a lot harder to mistake D/S or S&M for abuse.
Because it’s not always about consent, is it? No, consent is just the bare minimum requirement. An older, experienced gentleman waits till he knows you’re hungry for it. Because only a total toolbag would do it if you weren’t.
As he shoved himself inside me. I nodded, tears rolling down my face. He replied “good, it’s supposed to” as he kept using my little hole…
Just a little check in for the boys in the back: it’s only supposed to hurt if she’s into it. The rest of the time? If it hurts you’re doing it wrong.
Even in kink, when you put it inside your sweetie if it hurts you’re probably doing it wrong.
You know that meme about how the clitoris is the only organ “designed” to receive pleasure? Here’s a little bonus anatomy lesson: the dock is the only organ designed exclusively to caress.
Think about that next time someone says it’s supposed to hurt. If it hurts you’re not using it the way you’re meant to use it.
“Thinking of your [Little] as behaving badly disposes you to think of punishment. Thinking of your [Little] as struggling to handle something difficult encourages you to help them through their distress.”
Not sure who said this but next time someone asks the difference between Daddy Doms and non-Dom Daddies I’ll have to remember this.
Mind you the difficulty I might be encouraging you to overcome might be a bit of sadistic or bondage mischief I’ve dreamed up. Or could be from administering consequences you chose for yourself when setting a goal. Because “soft Daddy” doesn’t have to mean “vanilla,” does it?
But actual punishment isn’t very useful if you want meaningful long-term results.
The best leaders present commands that appear as opportunities to those they lead.
