“Unfortunately the majority of femdom porn leaves men not only expecting to be degraded, but often degrading themselves” What’s wrong with that? if they are into it why do you care
Femdom porn tends to leave out the aftercare and affection and that’s unfortunate to me and many others. It’s totally cool if a person likes to be degraded, but the reminder that they’re a loved, valued, and cared for human being is very important and I think it’s unfortunate that many subs think they don’t deserve that.
From my own past social contacts there’s an enormous difference between “femdoms” and actual women Doms.
“Femdoms” and femdom porn tends to cater to seriously patriarchal stereotypes about women, men, and the dynamics between them.
Problem #1: in “femdom” the fantasy/presumption is that women genuinely hate men. Meanwhile women who are Doms, like women in both vanilla and kink actually care about and care for their partners.
Problem #2: in “femdom” the fantasy/presumption is that it’s not possible for a man to be dominated by a woman unless he’s first feminized or “sissified.” Because, goodness, to be a man and submit to a woman would violate the underpinnings of the world! Meanwhile women who are Doms are all over the map when it comes to how they like their partners.
Problem #3: as a form of sex work “femdoms” are obliged to cater to their “submissive’s” expectations. Nothing wrong with sex work but it’s an employer/employee relationship, not a D/S one. Meanwhile, women who are Doms are likely to be interested in getting their own needs met while also getting off on reducing their partners to grateful puddles of endorphins.