Well. There’s spanking that’s meant to hurt. And nothing wrong with that when you’re both into it.
But an older, experienced gentleman understands that there’s spanking to help facilitate submission as well. Bending you over? Reining you in by your hair. An insistent hand on your ass, bracing your hip firmly against a sturdy thigh?
All to help you remember that while he might be doing it all for you, angel baby princess pie, he’ll be doing it all to you as well.