Why are so many of you so…. forceful?

Sit down a moment. Take a breath. This is a game best played with patience and tact. Meditate on your circumstance.

You have the girl. Spin her. Work your magic. Make her float. She is putty in your fingers. Sculpt her. Create your masterpiece.

You see; it is trust, not fear, that makes this dance. Aggression does not make the dominant. Self control, modesty, and grace makes the dominant.

Let her walk to you with keen anticipation, place the shackles around her own wrists, and hand you the chain.

Think of it like ballroom dance. The lead doesn’t force his partner into dips and turns. Doesn’t muscle her. He guides her. Invites. Leads by offering opportunities to follow willingly, gladly, with all her heart and all her creativity.

And yeah, yeah, tango, and French apache dance are rougher, sure. But those? Son, those are rehearsed and refined and polished to the millimeter and microgram. Otherwise if she’s not on board someone could get his back thrown out.

When someone’s Submitted to you you’ve won. It’s time to create, not destroy. Well. Except metaphorically of course.