any relationship that could be “ruined” by having a conversation about feelings, standards, or expectations wasn’t really firm enough anyway, so there isn’t much to ruin

Funny story.  Back when I had money (before I took 15 years off to be a full-time stay-at-home dad, I put a check for $1000 in an envelope in the attic.  On the envelope I wrote “for the first psychic to ask for it.”

A year later I took the check out of the envelope and tore it up.

How can this possibly relate, to @youngblackandvegan’s post you ask?

Well.  I think my little experiment demonstrated that psychics don’t really exist.

And if psychics can’t tell what I’m thinking when I’m willing to give them $1000, what are the chances that our partners are going to be so goddamn psychic we don’t have to have conversations with them about feelings, standards, boundaries, or expectations?

Zero sounds good.  Does zero sound good to you?

Same with the chances of a relationship working if you can’t talk without “ruining” it, hmm?