How to love a broken girl
How to love a broken girl. How many would benefit from an instruction book for that? Its easy to love the carefree girls, the ânormalâ girls, the confident girls next door, but what about the broken girls? The girls with fortresses around their heart and shields in their eyes? The girls whose souls have aged beyond their earthly years? The girls with bodies and minds that have survived wars which would break the strongest of men? Sometimes these girls should come with a warning label. The warning pendulum swings both ways. This warning is not only for how you must treat her but for all the ways she will ruin you.
1. You cannot love her gently. She does not realize she deserves to be loved. You must love her with a force that can crush mountains. You must burn her soul so hot with your love that doubt melts away. Your love must be unconditional and you must show her on her very worst days.
2. She doesnt know shes beautiful. She can get compliments all day and she wont believe it. There is a demon on her shoulder whispering that its not true. It takes a dozen compliments to erase one hurtful torment from her past. Shower her with compliments, be her cheerleader, until your words are her heartbeat instead of her doubts.
3. Chase her. I know we often have the attitude of not chasing anyone. I know it is said to be weak if we chase someone who walks away, but we need to see you are weak for us. Sometimes a broken girl needs to see how much you need her. She needs to.see that vulnerability in your eyes to feel ok. We need you to need us.
4. She needs routine. Broken girls over analyze everything. They notice everything, too. Did you stop asking her for pictures after some time passes? Did you stop using a pet name? Every broken pattern to us means the end of the only thing we have ever wanted and it terrifies us.
5. Smother us with affection. Touch us. Kiss us. Touch us some more. Broken girls have not experienced enough positive affection in their life. We will absorb every ounce as a person dying of thirst demands water. You cannot shower us with enough of a good touch.
6. Be honest and keep promises. Broken girls have not dared to dream much. Every vow made to us has been broken. Every promise has been a lie. We would rather you never let a promise escape your lips than have you utter false ones.
7. Prepare to drown. If we let you inside our chaotic soul, you will be immersed in a madness you will not understand. We sometimes walk the balance beam of insanity and sometimes we fall.
The biggest warning we should have is this.. if we love you, it is forever. We will love you with a loyalty that will amaze you. We will be committed and our heart will beat your name. While we are still broken we will try to devour all of your pain. We will be perceptive to your wounds and eager to heal your soul. If we love you, please be prepared that we will forever stay.***This was not written by me, but by Lady-Savant on fet, she gave me permission to post, and asked no links be added.
I cannot breathe for the emotion clogging my throat
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âBrokenâ girls are hard. And often worth the effort. Often but not always! They have to be pulling for you too. Â
Because that whole Knight in Shining Armor thing is an unhealthy extension of the myth of male âworthiness,â the daft male belief that sex and love must be earned through heroic, self-sacrificing effort. (And oooh do they get butt-hurt when the exasperated and uninterested damosel fails to properly ârewardâ him as he expects with her fair-ladyâs fair pussy  heart!)
âBrokenâ girls are not the holy grail for equally broken Galahads. They may not be able to meet you halfway, but they gotta be able to want you too.
Itâs not enough that she wants to be rescued. She needs to want to be rescued by you. And similarly itâs not enough to want to rescue anybody, everybody, or somebody. He needs to want to rescue her. Â
Thereâs got to be reasons for the relationship other than a need to rescue or be rescued. Because if thatâs all there is? Whatâs he gonna do… and whatâs she gonna do… if he succeeds?
If I can just add a little note here, mental illness is also not a kink. Abuse survivors arenât fetish objects. “Brokenâ girls arenât âcrazy wild in the sackâ either, bubbah. Like 97% of everyone else, âbrokenâ girls are vanilla as Jello pudding.
