I need your opinion on this. So i’m 20 and still a virgin BUT a have a very very dirty mind. I’ve started talking to this guy but i’m nervous about telling him that i’m a virgin….i’m scared that i’m gonna get rejected…help

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anauthenticgentleman:

I’ll say this only once.. anyone who judges you because you’ve not had sex does not deserve to even have you in that potential position in the first place.

And not to be even more prickly but anyone who says “now that you’ve had sex once everything is fine” also needs a reset.  Because that’s also judgment.  

Just like experiencing sex doesn’t change you, experiencing sex once doesn’t change you either.

We’d all be better off if we erased “virgin” and “virginity” from our vocabularies.  “Virginity” in both tradition and law is related to a woman’s property value to her current (father) and prospective (husband) custodial males.  Just decline to participate in that.  Women need to stop using the word.  Men really gotta stop using the word!

You know why you want to be sweet and supportive to someone when it’s their first time?  It’s not because it’s some kind of privilege or some kind of burden, and it’s definitely not because it’s somehow snapping anybody’s “seal of freshness!”  Instead it’s because they’re a beginner!  It’s because if someone you like wants to do a thing, and you enjoy doing the thing too, you want them to enjoy it enough to want to do it again.

Same with the second time too!

And never mind that intercourse is only one tiny part of sex!  That’s a whole nother conversation altogether.  

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