Is the DD/lg or whatever the male/male version of that would be only sexual? Can it be romantic or maybe even platonic? I’m ace and have realized my Little/pet-ness and I’m worried I’d only find a daddy/master who thinks sex is a guaranteed. Sorry for bugging you.


Hi there, 

No matter the gender or sexuality of the Caregiver that you are looking for, there will always be a variety of people and what they are looking for. There are plenty of heterosexual male Doms and Caregivers that are interested in only the sexual aspect of DD/lg and believe that sex should be an established part of the relationship. However, there are also plenty of heterosexual male Caregivers that are only interested in the Caregiving parts of DD/lg, that are perfectly fine with having a nonsexual relationship with their Little. I’m only using this as an example to establish a basic point, which is…

This is also going to apply for Caregivers and Littles in any mix of genders and sexualities. None of the dynamics can be grouped in one broad sweep as “just wanting sex” or “no sex at all ever”. Its a spectrum, and you just have to find what works for you. Be patient and never settle for less than you deserve.

Good luck. 

It’s super important to remember… well… a bunch of things about D/Lg, Cg/L and other caregiver/follower relationships

  • Not all Caregivers or Littles are sexual
  • Not all Littles age women
  • Not all Daddies are men
  • Not everyone in Cg/L is straight
  • Age differences aren’t necessary
  • Some people are very sexual… but not when they’re in Little ore Caregiver space