instructor144:

strongdomme:

apassionatedomme:

dominajen:

Normalize femdom

There are memes all over Facebook and Twitter, in people’s vanilla and family accounts, with quotes like, “Slap my ass, pull my hair, and buy me tacos.”

Maledom BDSM is officially mainstream. But Femdom is still kept so deep in the closet, it might as well be fucking Narnia.

And why?

Because misogyny, toxic masculinity and internalized misandry, that’s why.

Because a woman’s only acceptable role is submissive to a man. The only acceptable sexuality she can embrace is one of submission.

Because a man who submits is less of a man. A man who loves having his hair pulled, or being spanked, or being pegged, is inferior than a man who dominates a woman.

Fuck that.

We need to stop hiding this shit. Stop hiding who we are. Because things will never get better until we *make* them better.

We can’t wait for a series of poorly-written books to normalize who we are. We have to do it ourselves.

Tell people who you are. If you’re a woman, tell people you’re a Dominant. I, personally, will never attempt a romantic relationship with anyone who isn’t submissive ever again, so when people hit on me, I tell them that.

If you’re a man, tell people you like being spanked. Share those memes on your vanilla and family feeds. Don’t let the fear of other people’s opinions stop you. You’re not planning on sleeping with or marrying those people anyway, and the people who DO want to sleep with or marry you will have a much easier time finding you if you’re open about it.

50 Shades shoved Maledom down people’s throats so hard, it drowned out the psychos who insist that it’s unnatural, or abusive. The public was forced to accept it.

We don’t have books to give us that. And we may never have books to give us that. We need to do it ourselves.

We need to shove it down people’s throats until it becomes just as mainstream as Maledom. Until we can stop this sexist idea that women’s only acceptable role is to serve men, and men’s only acceptable role is to dominate women.

Tell everyone. If they get annoyed because you talk about it so much, that means you’re doing it right.

We have to talk about it until it becomes normal. We have to force people to accept it the way they were forced to accept Maledom.

We’re better than the sexist bullshit that keeps us afraid. We’re stronger than the people who will try to cut us down because we don’t fit in their little boxes.

It’s time to normalize Femdom. It’s time to stop catering to sexist people, with sexist ideas of who we should be.

Preach.

Normalize femdom and the existence of submissive males. ❤❤❤

I love this so much.

I’ve never really hidden from my family and friends but do have a tendency to hide from those I don’t trust because female dominance is seen as subversive even if it comes with no sexual kinks.

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The only thing I’d add is if we really want to normalize it we’ll stop calling it goddamn “femdom!”

Because you know what another word is for a woman who’s a Dom?  A Dom!

This isn’t the goddamn 19th or 20th Century, you know.  We no longer say “doctoress,” “conductoress,” “authoress,” do we?  And nobody’s ever said “femsadist” or “furryess” or “sex-toy makeress.”  So what possible valid reason could there be for calling a woman who’s a Dom a “femdom?”  

You know what they call Judge Judy?  They don’t call her a “femjudge,” do they?  No, they call her “your honor!” 

(Don’t even get me started on “dominatrix!”)

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