Sex tip: If he’s pressuring you to do anal, buy a dildo the same size as his dick, and ask him to do it first. If he’s scared of the pain- case closed. There’s absolutely no reason that he should expect it to feel any differently for you. If he says that it would be emasculating, belittling or ‘gay’, then that man is a misogynistic homophobe, and you better run for the hills as fast as your legs can take you.
I’m screaming
Take it like a man
What if he says yes
then you start making memories
We’re homophobic if we don’t wanna take a dildo in the ass now? 🥴
You’re homophobic if you say it’s “gay, belittling or emasculating” to receive anal. And you’re misogynist/a shitty person if you have to use pressure to get your partner to do it, but you don’t want to do it yourself because you’re afraid of the pain. Don’t ask anyone else to go through what you’d consider painful for your pleasure if they’re not into it and don’t use pressure.
And like, actual decent men may, because of the way our society is set up, need that object lesson.
If you present the dildo to him and say “you first” and he says “eeeeh, I don’t really want to?” you can say “Okay, that’s fine, I won’t force you, but I don’t really want to, either. So don’t I deserve the same respect I’m giving you by not pressuring you into it?”
If he argues or says “it’s different” or makes excuses? DUMP HIM. he is not safe and you should move on.
If he says “oh, fuck, I didn’t think of it like that, it’s ok if you don’t want to we’ll do other things”, then he’s at least got basic decency and you can test him for more intensive limits at your leisure.
Ok but if he says “I’d actually really like to try that anyway” – he’s a keeper and you should instantly propose to that man
This is dumb. If you think your girl would enjoy anal then sort of by definition you’d enjoy her pegging you. It’s the same anatomy either way.
This has been my answer when someone asked if she could peg me, so it goes both ways.
But really, if somebody gets it in the ass everybody gets it in the ass is as good a filter of interest as any.
Now mind you it’s also dumb because there are all kinds of reasons for recievor giving anal. Not all of them are sensual – some are social or psychological. And not everyone experiences receiving anal the same way. I happen to have a “numb butt” for instance. So penetration doesn’t hurt but it doesn’t feel like much of anything either. For others it’s evidently pretty uncomfortable (though I suspect it’s usually more the partner‘s fault) and for still others receiving anal is fabulous.
Still going to say the everybody or nobody rule is a very good starting place.
(Note: from a penis’s point of view it feels almost exactly the same.)
