aidashakur:

A man wanting you to cum before him is big dick, big husband, big daddy energy

TBH I’m always going to be selfish and want you to come first.  And when I was really obsessed I really was selfish about it too! 

I can’t speak for anyone else but while I was certainly a very effective lover I don’t think I became a good one till I realized you’ve got your own agency and turn ons and that sometimes you might want to make me come first, just like I like to make you.

But ohhhh do I ever really, really, really like making someone come.  Before me.  With me.  After me.  Sometimes even instead of me!  

Sigh.

Actually, I guess that’s the other thing that finally made me a good lover: knowing that “to come before me” doesn’t mean you can’t be the one to make yourself come.  Because we’ve got four hands and only one dick between us.

Come for me.  Even if I can’t be there to help it would make me really happy knowing you’re able to take care of yourself too.  And even more happy imagining you were.