How does one become good at sex and oral my Dtype says I’m horrible at sex and I don’t know how to be better
Your D type sounds like a little bitch-boy to say something that hurtful. Are you sure you want to improve your skills just so a douchelord like that can reap the benefits? Find a Dom who is willing to put in the work to teach you in a positive, affirming way.
I guess I’m in a mood today.
If you call yourself a Dominant and you have someone who is trying to give you oral and it’s not hitting the spot you can use those Domly skills to teach her what you like. Not by insulting her and making her insecure to feel superior but by being using actual elements of dominance like instructing and guiding. How hard is it to say slower/faster/suck harder/focus on the head/lick here/whatever the fuck you want her to do and then following it up with sighs and moans and good girls?
I will never understand why so many people who call themselves dominant choose to just crush someone who is eager to please them.
It’s just bad form for a Power-exchange top to drop any major criticism without providing some sort of guidance.
As @instructor144 says, Daddies and Doms are more likely to see inexperience or plain old incompetence as an opportunity than as an inconvenience. Instead it just sounds like the Dom is embarrassing and stressing the anon with complaints.
That might be ok if the anon was into humiliation play, but then they wouldn’t have written asking for help, would they? And since in kink both partners need to feel satisfied by their interactions, and since the anonymous Sub isn’t, then perhaps their partner should be asking “How do I become good at Domination – I’m terrible?”
In situations like this it’s a good time to take a time out and have a real conversation about sex, kink, and maybe the whole relationship.
