Humiliation and degradation are some of the most misunderstood concepts in both the vanilla and kink world. And all things are relative, to some women a simple blow job might seem humiliating. Such a pity.
To a feminists anything remotely unnatural or objectifying or otherwise celebrates the submissive and sexual nature of a woman for the pleasure of a man are utterly shocking and offensive. Images like these are a feminists worst nightmare.
In my estimation humiliation and degradation are purposeful. It is intended to destroy a girl’s pride, her ego, her sense of shame. Meaning she will allow me to subject her to the most humiliating things and feel no shame because her pride and social conditioning have been removed. It is through these activities that she undoes the brain washing that she has been subjected to by society and becomes comfortable in her utter, and complete sexual urges.
Some girls have secret fantasies of degradation but feel shameful for having them, because of social conditioning. Yet as their pride and social conditioning is removed to be objectified and treated purely like a sexual object, a bitch in heat, becomes insanely arousing. The irony for me is I could not humiliate or degrade a woman that I did not have a respect for.
I’m not one to knock the kink of others but I sometimes see these on my dash that suggest lowering a girl’s self esteem is useful or good and that humiliation is a means of making a girl feel bad about themselves. In my own book nothing a woman must have a good self esteem and to do anything to reduce her self value is detrimental and counter productive. I would want and a girl with a healthy self esteem, healthy in all respects for that matter.
Debasing oneself and becoming an object for the pleasure of another is not about making a girl feel bad about herself, it’s making her honest about her own primal sexual urges, her urge to surrender, her urge to be used, her primal urge to be below a power greater than herself and the destruction of pride and selfish ego-ism and overcoming the counter productive and constricting ideas they have adopted from social conditioning.
Help a girl build a healthy self esteem, and then humiliate her and watch her pussy flow.
“Humiliation and degradation are purposeful, and intended to destroy a girl’s pride, her ego and her sense of shame because her pride and social conditioning have been removed (by the Man)”. This because what the One wishes her to ultimately become, and same time, this is something she desires – deep, deep inside of her mind.
By allowing the One removing her pride, her ego, her sense of shame, and social conditions she is placed and believed, she is now free from everything: He is freeing her from guilts, freeing her from blame: she is placing absolute trust on Him to be the only One who could criticise such lower-self and begs the One to take her lower, deeper and darker place.
“Good, healthy, self-esteem” is perhaps, housed in the ‘well-sounded, balanced mind”. It is about the self-awareness of who she is, and aware of what she is in the given situation in everyday life. The validations from the One, the acceptance from the One, security/secure-base provided from the One. Well-balanced, manageable, meaningful routines provided by One: they all enhance her self-esteem, and ultimately, she becomes mentally and physically healthy, sound, self to fulfil His purpose.
Eh. Blanket psychoanalizing kinks is a bit of a fool’s errand. Making blanket declarations about kinksters is probably closer to wishful thinking than cogent analysis of an entire class of partners.
Me? For me, humiliation and degradation play is about whether or not it makes you hornier than other play. If it does then let’s do it. If not, let’s do something else, ok selfiestick?
(Note to self: Is it technically a fetish if your massive turn-on is your partner being massively turned on?)
