I like the fact that you’re waiting to find the right one, people have no right to judge you for still being a virgin
Awww thanks 💕
OMG!!! People gotta get over the whole goddamn virginity thing!!!
It’s not “sexier” to “take” someone’s virginity. Nor to “lose” it.
It sure as hell isn’t a big deal if you haven’t “lost” it either.
OMG, I mean people are so goddamn weird about what “virginity” even is! Usually it means “somebody’s penis in someone else’s vagina.” And if it doesn’t mean only that it still almost always involves a penis getting put somewhere. Which ought to tell you all you need to know about what the priorities around “virginity” are.
My favorite nonsense ever is the debate about whether 100% Lesbians who use strapons are still virgins. And what if they don’t use strapons?
(Oh, and on the other side of the Patriarchy what about tampons, fingers, or even just touching your own vulva, because some Patriarchs think their dicks will fall off, I guess, if it’s not literally the first thing ever to touch someone’s pussy. Talk about fragility!!! Male fragility I mean.)
Here’s a little tip (wait, pun not intended) about “virginity.” Penis-in-vagina sex is actually pretty complicated. Like most things that happen in nature it’s not “the most natural thing in the world.” Yeah, once you’ve got the hang of it it’s fine, but for both women and men it’s more like riding a bicycle than falling off a log.
And there are plenty of other things you can do in the meantime. From ballroom dancing to pegging each other in groups of eight while flying from trapezes.
And if you haven’t put a penis in your vagina, or a vagina around your penis, or even not so much as kissed? OMG, it’s ok. If someone else you know hasn’t that’s ok too. And if your partner isn’t into it yet that’s ok too, because it’s ok for you to masturbate when you get home.
The key phrase above is “not into it.” Not “when you’re ready.” Because “when you’re ready” is still social pressure. And, really, while putting a penis in a vagina isn’t actually a significant deal, it’s still your own body and therefore your decision whether you’re into it or not. Or whether it’s into you, I guess.
Bottom line: it’s not ok to do virginity shaming but shaming virginity shamers is strongly encouraged.
