It’s all a matter of what it takes for you to feel safe enough to be intimate with them.
And for the record this is true even if you’re the roughest, toughest, anonymous/no-strings, most jaded, kinkster evarrr! Bottom or top it just takes more work for you to trust someone enough to let them in.
This is not a criticism. This is not mocking.
This is just an invitation to try something on to see if it fits.
