Nothing wrong with needs! It’s actually right there at the top of @instructor144′s classic list of D/S priorities!
Sub’s needs
Dom’s needs
Dom’s wants
Sub’s wants
Yeah, you’ll find people who complain about their partners’ “neediness.” But there are way, way, way more people who worry unnecessarily about being “needy” than there are partners who dislike “neediness” in their partners.
You feel like your partner’s being too “needy?” Start acknowledging them and not just complimenting them. You feel like you’re being too “needy?” Ask for acknowledgment and not just approval.
Extra credit? Want help solving that “neediness” thing? Figure out your and your partners’ generic “love languages” and assess whether they’re getting what you or they see as expressions of love. There’s a non-zero chance your partner’s pouring their hearts out… in ways that don’t resonate with you. Or vice versa. That’s why acknowledgment is so important, by the way. Â
