To be honest.. if more children were shown from birth that they are loved, cared for, and listened no matter their gender we might not have some of the problems we have now.
Parents: Aloof disdain! Shun! Distance!
Also Parents: Why doesn’t my child talk to me?
And this is what I did with my real-life children. Several times a day, sometimes when they were pre-schoolers, maybe only once or twice a year by high-school age. But it was my way of saying this is important, I know you’re scared or hurting, it’s going to be alright.
They’ve turned out pretty well. And they call me to tell me not just about their sorrows and heartaches but their triumphs and achievements.
The main thing about parenting actual children, as well as being a Dom or Daddy with adult partners, is to be aware of why you’re doing what you do and who you’re doing it for. Because, yes, it’s awesome if you get something out of it too, but your responsibility for either straight up caregiving or kinky Caregiving is to do your best to make sure your children, or partners, are healthy, happy, confident, and independent. That’s not the same thing as “helicoptering.” It’s more like “what’s the appropriate response in this situation.” Sometimes it’s letting them figure it out for themselves, sometimes lending a hand, but always it’s about letting them be them and not yours.
Acknowledge your little and Little ones, don’t praise them. Acknowledge them, don’t berate them. A good dad, or Daddy, understands that it’s their world, not the other way around. Let them share it with you.
