“Thinking of your [Little] as behaving badly disposes you to think of punishment. Thinking of your [Little] as struggling to handle something difficult encourages you to help them through their distress.”
Not sure who said this but next time someone asks the difference between Daddy Doms and non-Dom Daddies I’ll have to remember this.
Mind you the difficulty I might be encouraging you to overcome might be a bit of sadistic or bondage mischief I’ve dreamed up. Or could be from administering consequences you chose for yourself when setting a goal. Because “soft Daddy” doesn’t have to mean “vanilla,” does it?
But actual punishment isn’t very useful if you want meaningful long-term results.
The best leaders present commands that appear as opportunities to those they lead.
