What are qualities in a man that makes you think “I want to dom him” vs. “I want to be dommed by him”?
I wish there was like a check off list so it’ll be easy to answer. 🤔
Honestly, this is a complicated question and my answer may not be a popular one.
I guess I seek socially dominant males with strong personalities. If that makes any sense. They are assertive and tend to learn from people, tend to be natural leaders and get what they want based on social queues and that type of thing is an A++ in my book. Like, get to fucking know me and how I like to be talked to and I would lick the dirt off your boots if you asked.
Aggressively dominant males are like “my way or the highway” and that’s a fucking turn off. Just no. Eww
As far as me topping someone. I look for people that want to please, who are eager to learn from me, who are service oriented and voluntarily allow or offer for me to make decisions for them. Genuinely being excited and happy about pleasing me is such a turn on.
Thanks for the ask. This got me really thinking.
One of the reasons I feel so comfortable as a non-Dom Daddy is that I’m actually pretty terrible at being either a socially-dominant or aggressive Dom. I also enjoy pleasing and serving in the very limited sense of helping you decide what you need, want, and enjoy (in that order) and then making it happen… a kind of collaboration that Littles tend to appreciate more than most capital-S Submissives.
Socially dominant: “you’ll wear the pink glass plug as we’ll be taking a rather long walk.”
Aggressively dominant: “you’ll wear the jeweled plug and I don’t want to hear any complaining while we’re out.”
Me: “Are you sure you wouldn’t rather have the pretty pink glass plug, kittycat? Yes, the jeweled plug is sparklier but it’s not as comfortable and we’ll be walking a long time. You get to choose but once we leave there won’t be anywhere you can take it out.”
In each case you end up with a plug in your cute little butt, but a non-Dom Daddy’s going to approach it pretty differently, isn’t he?
