Help! I need a dom/daddy, but how can I find one or identify one organically? I mean, in real life not online through apps. I’m in my early 20’s and am tired of dating apps or other internet forms. I really want to meet someone naturally that’s also into kink. Any suggestions or signs to look out for? Besides attending kink events/munches. And how can I convey my non-vanilla preferences? Thanks!
Thank you for asking (three times though?Ā Maybe Tumblrās just glitching.)
Sadly Iām afraid I canāt help much, except in the most general terms.
PLEASE NOTE: the next section is not specifically aimed at you, itās just a general observation – Iām sure you were just trying to be concise in your ask.Ā The next section does, however, reflect an observation Iāve made when a number of Littles have contacted me.
Iāve met most of the Littles I know because theyāve messaged me to say not justĀ āhiā orĀ āwill you be my daddyā but something specific about a post Iāve written, or with a question I can answer.
In other words (and hereās the important part of my answer) theyāve approached me as a human being and not just aĀ āDaddyā orĀ āDom.ā
Ok.Ā So.
What would you say if someone posted a personal ad that saidĀ āI need a wife?āĀ OrĀ āI need a boyfriend?ā
Thatās a perfectly reasonable thing to say when youāre posting an ad for a plumber: youāve got a leaky pipe and you donāt really care who can fix it as long as they can fix it.Ā You want to hire a plumber for what they can do, not who they are.
SayingĀ āI need a dom/daddyā orĀ āI need a sub/littleā probably isnāt going to get you very credible replies.Ā Just as a plumber will answer because they want to fix pipes and donāt much care whose pipes they do it to, someone whoād reply toĀ āI need a dom/daddyā just wants to… lay a different kind of pipe and donāt particularly care whose it is.
Not what most of us are looking for in a relationship.Ā Most Daddies and most Doms donāt just want to be with people instead of things for partners, they want to be treated as people and not things as well.
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As for non-munch/non-kink-community real-life events places to meet prospective experienced Doms or Daddies?Ā Iām sorry but my suggestions would probably be no better than random chance.
I allow comments on my posts and Iāll invite others to either say something there or repost with better answers on their blogs.Ā if I see something promising Iāll update this post with their suggestions.
Thanks so much for asking and Iām sorry I canāt be more help.Ā Itās an important question and a big source of frustration and a lotĀ of Littles would love to know the answer.Ā Best of luck, ok?