Reblogging this because even tho I am into this, there are so many that aren’t. My kink may not be your kink and thats ok.
Shoutout to all the men and women who aren’t into choking and spanking and degrading etc – don’t let tumblr make you think there’s something wrong with you for not enjoying that sort of thing.
Big hats off to @carpe-noctvm. Yes. Absolutely!
50 Shades of Grey has sold 125 million copies, which sounds like a lot, right? Despite being translated into the 52 most-common languages, with 7.5 billion people in the world that’s still only one out of 60 people.
Yeah, yeah, 50 Shades readers is a pretty sloppy proxy for the number of kinksters in the world. But it’s still safe to say that only about one in 50 people are into “choking and spanking and degrading, etc.”
So you’re not into choking, spanking, degrading, etc? You’re not alone. You’re not weird. You’re not unhip. You’re totally cool.
Note: despite having been almost completely appropriated by gaslighters and abusers (cough 50 Shades of Grey!) the original principle of “sex positivity” was that we don’t judge or shame anybody’s sexuality as long as it’s freely and competently consensual. That means only “sex-negative” assholes shame vanilla people for being vanilla.
Final note: Even if you are kinky, don’t let Tumblr-style representations make you think there’s something wrong with the way you do it!
No, wait! Final final note: never forget that most “peer pressure” comes from internal judgment of what we think “everyone else” is doing and, especially, internal beliefs of what “others might think.” That’s as true for sex as it is for anything else “everyone else does.”
