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cobaltdays:

Be your own daddy, make your own sugar.

This is actually pretty important.  Everybody’s entitled to their own kinks, and of course if your Love Language includes giving or receiving gifts then Sugardaddy/Sugarbaby is perfectly fine.

Please take this as someone who went to college with a number of much older women in a “re-entry” program who’d begun life in the 1970s as stay-at-home moms only to wind up abandoned, divorced, often stuck with a house and bills as well as children, no education or work experience, and fucking panicked and pissed.  This shouldn’t happen to anybody.

But it’s important to remember that real power-exchange kinks are only possible between equal partners.  So, yeah, if you’re really dependent on your kink partner for essentials like food, money, or shelter there’s a real risk that things can go sideways.  Sometimes very quickly.

This doesn’t mean it’s not going to work unless you’re splitting everything 50/50, or even that one partner has to pull their own weight.  But it’s… pretty frickin important that you be able to count on your own autonomy and independence.  It just lowers the chances that you’ll ever have to.

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