My daddy just gets so irritated n angry with me, often punishing me out of anger for things that aren’t even rules and it makes me feel terrible. I don’t anger him on purpose, it just seems to happen. I don’t know what to do.
daddyandhislittleprincess11102:
What you need to do is RUN. This is not a daddy, this is a dangerous abuser and you are an abuse victim. Get out. NOW.
The first time he punished you out of anger for a rule that didn’t exist, you should have run. Any person that would do that is domineering, not a Dominant. They are an abuser, not a lover. You need to pack up your shit and run before he does something really bad to you, because he will! He doesn’t care about you and you feel it. He makes you feel bad about yourself. You feel like you have to walk on eggshells around him because he might yell (abuse you) at you. This is not D/s. This is not DD/lg. This is not CG/lg.
This is abuse, straight up abuse. You deserve so much more!
Now, RUN and go find it!
Good luck! We are pulling for you!
Please be safe @instructor144 anon! You definitely need to get away from him. It will only get worse and this will only traumatize you more. Make a plan and go. You ARE worth it!
This! D/S is a kink! It’s a way to be together that makes us both happy, horny, and healthy!
To use a very pointed analogy, if two people are in a boxing ring and one punches the other that’s part of the agreement and rules and framework of boxing. If they see each other walking down the street and one of them delivers the exact same punch it’s criminal assault and battery because that’s totally outside of any agreement at all!
Same with any of the power-exchange kinks, even so-called “24/7″ Master/Slave ones. I don’t know if the anon’s guy is a bona fide abuser or if he just has zero sense of boundaries, but he’s way outside of the anon’s agreements with him.
Also, not to put too fine a point on it, but every Dom, Daddy, Master, or even Sadist should know that the hallmark of power-exchange is that tops stay under control of themselves! And therefore should never do any kind of D/S out of genuine anger.
You know what you do when your partner (Sub or Dom, or vanilla as a pudding pop for that matter) has made you angry? You use your safeword (yeah, Doms need safewords too) and call a timeout, and you sit down and talk it out. Why, it’s almost as if a kink relationship was an actual goddamn relationship!
Dominance ≠ domestic violence; Submission ≠ codependence.
The key words here are “makes me feel terrible.” D/S is supposed to make you feel good! If it makes you feel terrible it’s not kink, its just really shitty vanilla with unprovoked hitting.
If he doesn’t listen then, yeah, withdraw consent for all D/S. If he balks at that then definitely withdraw from the relationship! Find your support network. Tell who you need to tell to be safe, yeah, but also not to feel terrible!
