Re your post about blowjobs: I’m a guy and don’t really get the hype either. I’m 29 and have been with 8 women, only 2 of whom could finish the ‘job’. It takes a lot of effort for me to cum, regardless of how we’re trying or whether I’m masturbating or somebody else is involved. Many women talk the talk but can’t back it. Perhaps it’s because I’m on the small side but few will even feign enthusiasm (why do it begrudgingly? That’s not hot). Receiving feels too passive for me too… (part 1, TBC)

victorianmaidn:

oldenoughtobeyourfather:

xxxamorexxx:

This!!!  It took me years to learn how to come from blowjobs.  They always felt heavenly but it’s hard to get me in the right places.  Or something.  I’d had the opposite problem with PIV intercourse.  That too felt (still feels!) heavenly but if I wasn’t hyper careful I’d come within seconds.  

On the other hand there are quite a few men who feel the opposite – they can come easily from blowjobs but not PIV intercourse.  And meanwhile quite a few women don’t come from receiving oral.

I want to be clear here that it’s a mistake to say it’s the partner’s problem.  And a bigger mistake to say “well they wouldn’t have that problem with me!”  Because, yeah, even if you can tie a cherry stem with your tongue that might not work for some partners.

So here’s the main deal though: we’ve got a scarcity model of sex such that certain things are supposed to be “ultimate” in pleasure based a little more on how likely they are to happen or how hard they are to “acquire.”  

As various people (I’ll credit Mark Twain) have said “if peanuts were scarce instead of sturgeon the wealthy would fawn over peanut butter instead of caviar.”  Same with, say, ass fucking which, from my perspective, feels pretty much exactly the same as PIV.  And yet if you go following Tumblr or Reddit or PornHub porn it’s presented as some kind of holy grail.  This has, I suspect, more to do with partners’ relative enthusiasm for receiving anal, and therefore its scarcity, more than it’s actual… I dunno what to call it… “pleasure value” or something maybe?

Anyway, point is that it’s just not true that everyone will get off from fellatio in general or deep-throat fellatio in particular, or cunnilingus, or PIV intercourse, or giant cocks, or ass fucking, or threeways, or rimming, or much younger or older partners, or spanking, (FFS) “squirting” and other g-spot orgasms, “fucking all night,” or… pretty much any single highly-valued sex act that most people never do once (and, notably, that very few do twice.)

And the bottom line from me to you, as usual, is: there’s exactly nothing wrong with enjoying any or all of these things but don’t stress if X, Y, or/and Z doesn’t do anything for you.  You’re SOOOO not alone.  The big difference, usually, is that the others are embarrassed to admit it doesn’t do much for them either.

It depends why the little is doing it

To make Daddy cum? I guess

But that would be a byproduct for me.

My desire is simply to worship you and by extension your cock. I want to kiss and lick it, feel it grow. Trace the vein with my tongue, suckle on you heavy, full balls. Stroke you and lick the vein some more, make you feel so good. I just want you to feel good Daddy.

Since I’ve been going on a lot about the “downsides” of oral sex, this point by @victorianmaidn is actually pretty important too: a blowjob you give me isn’t always about me!  Me licking you isn’t always all about you either.

Sometimes I just want to enjoy the all-senses banquet I get by going down on you.  Seeing you, the sounds and taste and aroma, how you feel against my tongue, how you move your legs and hips, how you breathe and whisper and moan, how you grab or stroke my hair?  That turns me on!  That makes me hot and hard and very happy.  I wouldn’t want to do it if it bored you or outright turned you off.  I love getting you off, but I also just love doing it.

And sometimes?  Sometimes you just want my dick in your mouth, don’t you?  And even if I don’t always come that way?  It still always feels good, bluejay.  You’re a good girl.

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