Technically nobody deserves a blowjob. It’s literally not a job! Instead it’s a gift. In both senses, meaning not just something given but something one has more or less of an aptitude and affinity for.
But!
Just because they’re neither earned nor purchased nor an entitlement, who wants to either give a gift or apply ones gifts to a… selfish toolbag?
Go down on your sweetly because you like them and want them to feel good. Do it because it makes you happy.
Meanwhile as a hungry Daddy I’m sort of the opposite. Getting blowjobs makes me happy because I know I’ll get to go down on you next.
i want a partner who would let me suck on their dick/toy lazily just because i want something in my mouth at the moment. playing a game? gimme please, i won’t be in your way. reading? i’ll look awful cute by your lamp light just beyond the edge of your page. lounging in bed? your tummy is soft to lay my head on so you can play with my hair and doze while you’re in my mouth. it’s a win-win, truly.
This is so me, isn’t it Sir?
When I was a young man blowjobs were Just Not Done. It wasn’t just that “proper ladies” did no such thing. (At least in the English speaking world.) It’s that men who wanted blowjobs were suspected “latent homosexuality!”
There’s a pretty wild police report from Australia in the 1960s, not only did a gang of women sex workers beat up other sex workers who’d agree to give blowjobs, another group beat up a customer who asked for one!
Oddly, going down on women didn’t have that stigma either for women who received it or men who gave. Which is awesome because I adore going down on my partners. It was one of my earliest sex fantasies. I daydream about it often. And while boundaries are still boundaries, I’m always profoundly disappointed when a partner doesn’t want me to go down on her.
And if I enjoy going down on you then it shouldn’t be a surprise if you, like @agenderkitten, would be as into going down on me.
Yeah, it can be hot and heavy. But it’s also lovely when it’s slow, lazy, and as much for comfort as coming.
The trick to 69 is taking turns, not trying to have “simultaneous orgasm so.” The trick is it’s just so much more intimate. The trick is it just feels and tastes and looks and feels and feels and feels wonderful!
Close your eyes and daydream of me daydreaming of the moment where I’m just beginning to open you and I look deep in your eyes to see you’re more than ready and…
Just so you know, this is a very, very lovely way to do this. Nobody’s on top. Nobody had to be in a hurry. Just sweet nuzzling and kissing till… one or the other of us completely loses the plot.
Morning wood is usually just super inconvenient because sometimes you really gotta pee and you’re pointing straight up!!! But I get that not everyone sees it the same way.
It’s actually kind of a heavenly way to encourage a sleepy Daddy to wake up, slippery elf.
I love this so much! A lot of the time when you see “69″ in porn it’s either one or the other on top. But really this is a lot more comfortable, cosy, and even intimate, isn’t it? Lying with your head on my inner thigh and mine on yours. Nobody “in charge,” and, really, nobody in a hurry or feeling obliged to perform. Just enjoying each other and feeling enjoyed is just… pretty wonderful!
Perfect thing to do on a lazy Saturday evening or Sunday afternoon, huh, cricket?
By Thomas Oldenough | June 8, 2019 | Comments Off on Re your post about blowjobs: I’m a guy and don’t really get the hype either. I’m 29 and have been with 8 women, only 2 of whom could finish the ‘job’. It takes a lot of effort for me to cum, regardless of how we’re trying or whether I’m masturbating or somebody else is involved. Many women talk the talk but can’t back it. Perhaps it’s because I’m on the small side but few will even feign enthusiasm (why do it begrudgingly? That’s not hot). Receiving feels too passive for me too… (part 1, TBC)
This!!! It took me years to learn how to come from blowjobs. They always felt heavenly but it’s hard to get me in the right places. Or something. I’d had the opposite problem with PIV intercourse. That too felt (still feels!) heavenly but if I wasn’t hyper careful I’d come within seconds.
On the other hand there are quite a few men who feel the opposite – they can come easily from blowjobs but not PIV intercourse. And meanwhile quite a few women don’t come from receiving oral.
I want to be clear here that it’s a mistake to say it’s the partner’s problem. And a bigger mistake to say “well they wouldn’t have that problem with me!” Because, yeah, even if you can tie a cherry stem with your tongue that might not work for some partners.
So here’s the main deal though: we’ve got a scarcity model of sex such that certain things are supposed to be “ultimate” in pleasure based a little more on how likely they are to happen or how hard they are to “acquire.”
As various people (I’ll credit Mark Twain) have said “if peanuts were scarce instead of sturgeon the wealthy would fawn over peanut butter instead of caviar.” Same with, say, ass fucking which, from my perspective, feels pretty much exactly the same as PIV. And yet if you go following Tumblr or Reddit or PornHub porn it’s presented as some kind of holy grail. This has, I suspect, more to do with partners’ relative enthusiasm for receiving anal, and therefore its scarcity, more than it’s actual… I dunno what to call it… “pleasure value” or something maybe?
Anyway, point is that it’s just not true that everyone will get off from fellatio in general or deep-throat fellatio in particular, or cunnilingus, or PIV intercourse, or giant cocks, or ass fucking, or threeways, or rimming, or much younger or older partners, or spanking, (FFS) “squirting” and other g-spot orgasms, “fucking all night,” or… pretty much any single highly-valued sex act that most people never do once (and, notably, that very few do twice.)
And the bottom line from me to you, as usual, is: there’s exactly nothing wrong with enjoying any or all of these things but don’t stress if X, Y, or/and Z doesn’t do anything for you. You’re SOOOO not alone. The big difference, usually, is that the others are embarrassed to admit it doesn’t do much for them either.
It depends why the little is doing it
To make Daddy cum? I guess
But that would be a byproduct for me.
My desire is simply to worship you and by extension your cock. I want to kiss and lick it, feel it grow. Trace the vein with my tongue, suckle on you heavy, full balls. Stroke you and lick the vein some more, make you feel so good. I just want you to feel good Daddy.
Since I’ve been going on a lot about the “downsides” of oral sex, this point by @victorianmaidn is actually pretty important too: a blowjob you give me isn’t always about me! Me licking you isn’t always all about you either.
Sometimes I just want to enjoy the all-senses banquet I get by going down on you. Seeing you, the sounds and taste and aroma, how you feel against my tongue, how you move your legs and hips, how you breathe and whisper and moan, how you grab or stroke my hair? That turns me on! That makes me hot and hard and very happy. I wouldn’t want to do it if it bored you or outright turned you off. I love getting you off, but I also just love doing it.
And sometimes? Sometimes you just want my dick in your mouth, don’t you? And even if I don’t always come that way? It still always feels good, bluejay. You’re a good girl.
Comments Off on Re your post about blowjobs: I’m a guy and don’t really get the hype either. I’m 29 and have been with 8 women, only 2 of whom could finish the ‘job’. It takes a lot of effort for me to cum, regardless of how we’re trying or whether I’m masturbating or somebody else is involved. Many women talk the talk but can’t back it. Perhaps it’s because I’m on the small side but few will even feign enthusiasm (why do it begrudgingly? That’s not hot). Receiving feels too passive for me too… (part 1, TBC)
