Visually stimulating to watch, possibly, but not that much fun to do. And not just for her. This is a recurring problem with sex as itâs performed in porn. Porn producers (and, one assumes, consumers) obviously give exactly zero fucks about whether women performers are comfortable. Whatâs less well-understood is they also give zero fucks about their male employee comfort or pleasure.
Rule #5: donât do it like they do it in porn. Not because itâs âbadâ or âwrongâ but because it often doesnât feel very good.
Update because several have asked. Â
#1: Donât ask me how I know this isnât a terribly comfortable position. Iâll just say an enthusiastic early girlfriend and I found the authors of those âultimateâ sex-position charts have to reach a bit to get to the next impressive-sounding round number.
#2: Thereâs no one particular thing about the position itself thatâs shriekingly bad. Â His angle even makes it possible that sheâs getting g- and maybe even p-spot contact through the walls of her rectum. Â And anal stimulation itself can be very enjoyable. Â And while the position is challenging in terms of back and neck compression, and may be restricting her breathing, if she does yoga (for instance) and if she enjoys stress positions and restricted breathing then it could be ok for her. Â And while Iâm a giant fan of clitoral contact and thatâs how maybe 85% of women most reliably have orgasms, not all women want or need it at all times. Â And maybe he enjoys feeling her tailbone grinding against the underside of his dick (though I doubt she does, or will the next day.) Â
BUT!Â
#3: Again (see âultimate sex position charts,â above) compared to numerous other positions that will give you most or all of the sensations, above, the main thing this one has that the others donât is clear camera angles. Â Which is the only thing that consistently matters in porn.
Outside of porn? Â Or maybe trying to polish off every position in a silly-ass âultimate sex positionâ chart when youâre both still in high school? Â Yeah, other than that itâs just stunt fucking.
Rule #5: donât do it like they do it in porn. An editorial content, public service message about porn being the shittiest possible substitute for sex education ever⊠that Tumblr @staff is going to filter anyway.
Just say no to stunt fucking. Not saying nobodyâs turned in by exxxxtreme sex. And Iâm sure some people do it at home. Not knocking you if you do.
But mostly… itâs stuff people can do with sex organs but itâs not something anybody comes from when they do.
Just saying itâs not where most people who do even very rough BDSM wind up. Itâs ok if it turns you on, but donât let it be the reason you never try anything.
Anatomy, physiology, and common sense all say she probably wouldnât be grimacing like she canât wait for the director of photography to say âcutâ if she wasnât (literally!!!!) twisting her neck almost to breaking in order to look into the camera.
Ass fucking (though, see rule #5 about not using lube) doesnât have to be very painful at all. But a slipped disk is gonna get you every time.
And long as Iâm grousing about porn, hereâs a gender/porn question: ever notice that in porn men tend to look away from the camera (usually making eye contact with their co-workers) while women seem to be expected to make eye contact with the camera (at almost any cost!) and largely ignore their co-workers.)Â
Donât do it like they do it in porn. Even if you have an unlimited plan with your chiropractor. And optometrist.Â
Donât ask me how I know but this isnât actually a very comfortable or orgasmic way to fuck. Might look interesting, which works for porn I guess. But thereâs surprisingly little stimulation.
Or as those of us who are into kink instead of just consuming it would say: actual D/S where a woman happens to be the Dominant vs sex workers and porn stars hired to cater to certain wealthy menâs highly stylized interest in âexoticâ stunt sex.
Got you fam ????????
Major hats off to @femdomunicorn for setting this meme straight!
Or as those of us who are into kink instead of just consuming it would say: actual D/S where a woman happens to be the Dominant vs sex workers and porn stars hired to cater to certain wealthy menâs highly stylized interest in âexoticâ stunt sex.
thatâs so you canât go back and talk shit in the group chat.
This position is the devil
That you been a bad slut so Iâm gonna fuck you like one ????????????
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HA!
Because all the old sex manuals we read said itâs a good idea? Because it makes us feel more Domly and Commanding? Because it seems harder? Because weâre trained seals and weâre used to getting fish for balancing on a ball?
Oh wait, or maybe because they do it a lot in porn? (Remember Rule #5: Never do anything like they do it in porn because pornâs designed to look good, not feel good.)
I dunno. Early on in my sex life several of my partners went through old illustrated sex manuals and tried all the positions. So we tried that one. I never thought it was that great. None of my partners thought it was that great either.Â
So we didnât do it again. Â
Since we were going through all the positions in the sex manuals we found lots of positions that did feel good. Â
Those? Those we did again. And again!
I dunno. There are a lot more comfortable positions. A lot more intimate positions. Plenty more challenging positions. Certainly more dominating positions. Even more uncomfortable positions â legs over the shoulder isnât even the most uncomfortable position!!!
In the decades since those early years Iâve had⊠quite a few different partners. Who were into quite a few different things.
Even the ones who did say things like âyou know, I want you to slap my face while we fuck.â And ones who said âyou know, I want you to fuck my ass.â And even ones who said âyou know, just push into me before Iâm ready â it feels like Iâm being âtakenâ for the first time!â (That last one was soooo into the ravishment scenes in romance novels.)
None of them ever said âyou know, Iâd just really like to put my legs over your shoulders.â
SoâŠ
Donât know what to tell you except maybe find a guy who doesnât watch as much low-rent porn?
