What I’m Saying
When I say āI want to be tied upā
what Iām really saying is
āI want to trust you enough to let go.āWhen I say āI want to be slappedā
what Iām really saying is
āThat sting makes me feel real.āWhen I say āI want be spankedā
what Iām really saying is
āI want to feel accountable to you.āWhen I say āI want be gaggedā
what Iām really saying is
āHelp me silence the thoughts in my brain.āWhen I say āI want to be usedā
what Iām really saying is
āI need to feel small and insignificant.āWhen I say āI want to be defiledā
what Iām really saying is
āI feel dirty. Make it go away.āWhen I say āI want be forced ā
what Iām really saying is
āHelp me not feel guilty about my desires.āāWhen I say āI want to be markedā
what Iām really saying is
āI need to feel you here even when youāre not.āWhen I say āIām yoursā
what Iām really saying is
āI love the way you love me.āWhen I say āI love youā
I mean just that.Source compliKated – Fetlife
this is cute.
This is also awesome!
I get that itās not always obvious that thereās such a hugeĀ gap between kink and abuse.Ā But thatās why itās important to come up for air long enough, and go meta enough, to make the differences crystal clear.
For the record, if I didnāt understand how you felt, and if I didnāt reciprocate those feelings, I couldnāt lift a finger or say a word.Ā Ā
Chances are surprisingly good that if we didnāt have all the social pressure, guilt trips, need for vigilance and self-protection, perpetual deluges of oppression, and the aftermath of both petty and deep realĀ abuse, most of us would be perfectly happy being blandly vanilla.Ā AlthoughĀ āvanillaā activities might be considerably more, um, robust and less deferential and tentative.Ā But we do have all that bullshit, and so we wind up with kinks.Ā Thatās why we call them kinks!Ā Ā
But hells yes:
- I wouldnāt bind you if I didnāt know you trusted me
- I wouldnāt spank you if you didnāt want to be spanked.
- I wouldnāt slap or gag or force you unless I know thatās what you need to let go
- I wouldnātĀ āuseā you if I didnāt think it fed your fires too.
- And if I saidĀ āI love youā Iād mean it from the bottom of my heart.