Because there are all kinds of ways to do pet play, aren’t there, shrimpsauce? Sometimes it’s about cute kittens or grovelly little puppies. But sometimes it’s about Daddy needing to tame his hungry, hungry lion too, isn’t it?
While consent is non-negotiable, and while it must be verbal if there’s even a hint of ambiguity it must be confirmed verbally, sometimes there’s no ambiguity at all, is there, pencil nub?
Mmmmm, Victorian boarding school / medical inspection play! “You have a very common condition, young lady, but let’s take a look… ah, it’s more serious than I feared. No wonder you’ve had trouble concentrating on your studies!”
When the real students have all gone home for the summer there are more than132,853 empty schools in the U.S. alone, with who knows how many classrooms where it’s safe for grown men and women to spend all summer long playing stay-after-school games…
When I say “I want to be tied up” what I’m really saying is “I want to trust you enough to let go.”
When I say “I want to be slapped” what I’m really saying is “That sting makes me feel real.”
When I say “I want be spanked” what I’m really saying is “I want to feel accountable to you.”
When I say “I want be gagged” what I’m really saying is “Help me silence the thoughts in my brain.”
When I say “I want to be used” what I’m really saying is “I need to feel small and insignificant.”
When I say “I want to be defiled” what I’m really saying is “I feel dirty. Make it go away.”
When I say “I want be forced ” what I’m really saying is “Help me not feel guilty about my desires.”
“When I say “I want to be marked” what I’m really saying is “I need to feel you here even when you’re not.”
When I say “I’m yours” what I’m really saying is “I love the way you love me.”
When I say “I love you” I mean just that.
Source compliKated – Fetlife
this is cute.
This is also awesome!
I get that it’s not always obvious that there’s such a huge gap between kink and abuse. But that’s why it’s important to come up for air long enough, and go meta enough, to make the differences crystal clear.
For the record, if I didn’t understand how you felt, and if I didn’t reciprocate those feelings, I couldn’t lift a finger or say a word.
Chances are surprisingly good that if we didn’t have all the social pressure, guilt trips, need for vigilance and self-protection, perpetual deluges of oppression, and the aftermath of both petty and deep real abuse, most of us would be perfectly happy being blandly vanilla. Although “vanilla” activities might be considerably more, um, robust and less deferential and tentative. But we do have all that bullshit, and so we wind up with kinks. That’s why we call them kinks!
But hells yes:
I wouldn’t bind you if I didn’t know you trusted me
I wouldn’t spank you if you didn’t want to be spanked.
I wouldn’t slap or gag or force you unless I know that’s what you need to let go
I wouldn’t “use” you if I didn’t think it fed your fires too.
And if I said “I love you” I’d mean it from the bottom of my heart.
By Thomas Oldenough | June 3, 2019 | Comments Off on “Okay so one of my favoritefavoritefavorite things ever is to be made to say dirty and degrading things…”
Okay so one of my favoritefavoritefavorite things ever is to be made to say dirty and degrading things. Like seriously. Force me to beg for your cock, force me to tell you exactly what I want you to do to me – in detail. Force me to beg. Force me to whine. Force me to cry. Like, okay, real talk? I get so embarrassed by having to talk dirty and tell you all the things I want to do and talk about it in detail… And that means that I want you to fucking make me do it.
And then laugh at me, pat my head, and tell me how cute I am when I’m pathetic and desperate and begging for it like a filthy little slut.
Little secret? It embarrasses me to say a lot of those words too, so I completely sympathize. But because I feel the same way I know it’s really erotic to say them too, right? So of course I’m going to make you say them!
Also, um, I get really hard when you blush so…
Would you like me to do that for you, candytuft? If you blush fetchingly enough when you say “no” then…
Then come sit in my lap and tell Daddy allll about what you want while.
