By Thomas Oldenough | May 28, 2019 | Comments Off on Spanking with a book is actually gonna be…
To be honest there are like 35 different ways this is hot! Spanking with a book is actually gonna be more symbolic than painful, more deep-thuddy than stinging, but nice and loud and of course it’ll move you. Also, while I’m a Daddy that’s close enough to Professor/Pupil to work for me. Plus any time you’re bent over a desk and my hand is firmly gripping your hip I’ll be happy… how about you?
Oh, and in case you preferred stingy to thuddy spankings? Well, there’s that yard stick under her hips, isn’t there?
Want to play being kept after class with me, teaspoon?
By Thomas Oldenough | May 16, 2019 | Comments Off on Do you think it’s more common and accepted in the D/s community to have a large age gap between partners? Especially with dd/lg? My dom and I are both of age of course, but he has a little under 30 years on me.
That’s a hard question. Even in the D/S community there can be a stigma with age gaps. It’s really a pretty subjective thing. I have never had a problem with it. I’ve known doms and subs that were the same age, Dom much older and sub much younger, sub older and Dom younger, etc. In the Daddy Dom side I still see it happen, where a person will not understand that just because an older Daddy is with a much younger Sub it doesnt make it a bad or creepy thing. I think it’s more accepted than it was but I do see it. I caught a lot of flack from friends in the community once when I had a sub that was 22 and I was 40ish. I got called a lot of unwelcomed names and it really had nothing to do with her age. The sub I had before her was in her 50s. I click with people and when I do the age isn’t an issue.
I can only speak to my experience but I bet I have followers that fall on both sides of this fence. Some that thing age Gap is no big deal and some that see a problem with it, and even some that only see a problem if the sub or dom are below the age of about 25 and the partner is older than 40 or so.
It’s a good discussion topic to me.
I would say it’s not uncommon but an awful lot of the D/S and other power-exchange couples I’ve known or seen over the years have been within a few years of each other age-wise.
For whatever reason, with hetero couples the man is almost always either the same age or a little bit older than the woman. Most D/S relationships are hetero so the male partner in most D/S relationships is likely to be the same age or a little bit older too.
Where things break down: the presumption is that men are always Doms and women are always Subs. That’s certainly the stereotype, and stereotypes have way of making us see things that reinforce them and overlook or excuse away things that contradict them.
And just so you know, decades ago statisticians noticed that back when marriage was the default, the best marriages by most measurements we’d tend to care about today were the ones where the woman was 5-9 years older than her husband. I’m not saying those were always D/S relationship where the woman was the Dom. In fact I’m guessing that particular age difference made for the most egalitarian relationship in a heavily sexist culture. How or whether kink was involve isn’t as important because…
When it comes to kink age really isn’t as critical as a lot of hetero men and women seem to believe.
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By Thomas Oldenough | April 8, 2019 | Comments Off on >DDLG. …Why are you into father/5 year old daughter incest roleplay?
You’d have to ask someone who was into that.
But if I was into that I’d probably say it was because my adult partners and I were into it.
Into it the way adults can be into roleplaying other objectively silly but subjectively arousing themes like pirates, gangsters, movie stars, millionaires, grossly-stereotyped ethnicities, soldiers, nobility and “French maids,” doctors and “naughty” nurses, cable guys or pool boys and bored housewives, bosses and secretaries, virgins and rakes, strangers-in-a-bar, porn stars, “hookers and johns,” prisoners and guards, cops and criminals, vampires or werewolves, imprisoned princesses, unicorns or other furry animals, characters from 50 Shades of Grey, characters from Mad Men, characters from My Little Pony (hey, I’m not gonna judge), or clowns (still not judging), or husband and wife (when they’re not) or having an affair (when they’re monogamous together), and on and on and on.
Or you might ask vanilla people why they’re into roleplaying repressed Victorian-era missionaries. (Worth mentioning that before the Victorians it was Puritan doctrine that husbands and wives would be unfailingly lusty for each other, so practitioners can’t fall back on missionary sex being “normal” or “religious.”)
Review each item in a list of “naughty” Halloween costumes and ask yourself why that?!?!
The short answer to any of the above is that for many adults relationships are social as well as psychological or physical. And so adults find ways of bringing social tropes and metaphors into their interpersonal relationships. They also often seek out other adults who share not only compatible sets of body parts but compatible social metaphors. If you both happen to have strong social associations with Spongebob and Patrick, then you may enjoy bringing that dynamic into bed together. And no, as long as you and your partner were adults who were exercising affirmative, competent consent it would be silly to judge that either.
Speaking for myself I’m not into roleplaying being sexual as a father, or being sexual with a minor offspring. D/Lg kink ≠ incest kink. Instead it’s just fun and erotic to intentionally employ the social cliches and stereotypes of caregiving as an adult with an adult partner.
One gives a pacifier to an infant to… well… pacify them. One gives or receives a pacifier to an adult sexual partner to signify an ephemeral, consensual alteration of relative power. That’s… pretty different from incest.
In my fantasy institution, especially needy or misbehaved patients find themselves spending the night restrained in a room while a therapist spends five to fifteen minutes teasing each in turn, again and again, all night.
Sometimes a few extra therapists might sneak in at night to spend a few hours focusing on one or two unfortunate patients… it’s not supposed to happen, but the patients know better than to tell.
I really want a night like this
Ok. Truth be told, 98% of the time I want to be a nice, soft Daddy. But every now and then, pumpkin? Sigh. Every now and then I have these daydreams of being your very mean custodial male instead, tasked with turning you away from your wayward, um, ways.
An older, experienced Daddy knows Littles love playing simple games like “guess who.” Even though of course you know it’s always me, don’t you, doodlebug?
