By Thomas Oldenough | August 2, 2019 | Comments Off on Do you have an age limit for relationships?
I do. You need to be old enough for me to be your father. I had a vasectomy more than 18 years ago so that’s a limit.
Other than that, age isn’t as important as… well… a million other things. Like getting along well, having lots in common, being able to learn from each other (don’t ever imagine a top doesn’t learn from you as much as you learn from them), having compatible interests in and out of the bedroom…
I’ve had spectacular long-term and short-term relationships with partners in their late teens and late 50s. I’m at a point in my life, completing my transition from a fatherhood/family, still recovering from the end of a very long-term relationship, where starting a new long-term relationship probably isn’t in my foreseeable future. And so at this point I probably have fewer age-related considerations than I would have earlier in life.
Which, I guess, sort of makes me more of a good crash-test Daddy than a long-term catch. :-(
Good time to remind folks that D/Lg is a kink, not an age. And that for most age gap kinksters a 10 year difference is plenty and twice or half your age is a perfectly fine limit.
Tip for folks who don’t understand D/Lg Littles: Of course you’re a capable adult woman who can take care of yourself! That’s why it’s so hot when you have a partner who’ll whisper things like “here, let me do it, Angel, you’re too small….”
Exactly THIS ☝️☝️☝️
I’m a very dominant personality in every other aspect of my life. Totally submitting everything to another person is intoxicating. I enjoy the Daddy/Little dynamic because I don’t HAVE to be in charge or make decisions. I TRUST that Daddy knows whats best for me. 😊 Couple that with a man that likes to be in charge and it’s pure heaven.
Big tip of the hat for the other side of the equation from @daddysxlittlexbabybear. D/Lg is about recapturing the feeling of caring or being cared for, not (ugh!) actually being a father or their child.
[Aside: honestly, having raised two children of my own, and having been raised by two perfectly ordinary parents, I can say with considerable authority that nobody’s more categorically unarousing than a person you had to drag out of bed and get off to school 180 days a year for 13+ years counting preschool. nor can I imagine someone feeling sexaayyy around someone who badgered them to get their science project posters done, room cleaned, eat their vegetables, and “no, you can’t have a dog, you’re allergic” every year for 18 years.]
I will deny being sleepy as I’m falling asleep right in front of you. You have no proof I’m sleepy.
Just 5 more…SNORES…minutes 🙄
Someone asked the other day if I preferred age play or enjoyed actual age regression. My answer was long-winded Daddy’splaining as usual. But the short answer is “both!”
I don’t know if I’d work well with someone who wanted to be in Little space 24/7, because I also need grownup contact and conversation with a partner, but that definitely doesn’t mean “only during sexy time.” D/Lg isn’t all about sex, is it? Nor does sex always happen when you’re
But anyway, what @sapphicbunny said? Regression at (non-sexy) bedtime is adorable. Perfect! Getting ready for bed? Storytime? Tucking you in? Snuggling? Lying through your teeth about not being sleepy when you can’t keep your eyes open?
Sigh.
Grownup time during the day. Age play maybe during sexy time. Little-space regression as far back as you want before breakfast and at bedtime? That’s heavenly for this Daddy, kettlecorn.
In reality, forget images of submissives on their knees, whipmarks and palm prints, mouths engaged in pleasure giving, bodies restrained, eyes blindfolded, wrists cuffed, clothes shredded, bodies exposed…these are images for your visual entertainment, to simply, often briefly, arouse your mind (and body) or address your physical needs or kinks. BDSM in all its forms and combinations commonly boils down to the image above.
Yes, there are those that simply enjoy the physical rewards of such engagements and there is nothing wrong with that, but I wager there are many more people who acknowledge the meaning within this photo.
Oh hell yeah this!
I’d add it’s even more relevant to D/Lg, DD/Lg, Cg/L and other age-related kink’s because turns of the Earth around Sun say even the strongest, smartest, most domineering and supportive top will grow old for real. And however much authority they keep we all eventually grow frail.
And so it’s important to get that no matter how you play you can never forget you’re partners. And you need each other. Not just in health but in sickness.
