If you don’t understand that being a D/Lg Little or D/S Sub or S&M Masochist is it’s own active, independent, autonomous kink you won’t be able to understand kink at all. Not even a little bit!
I’d add, incidentally, that because of this it’s important for Littles, Subs, and other bottoms remember that it’s just as important for you to get consent and respect boundaries when you initiate play. Especially with a new partner.
That’s one of the things I mean I mean by people not understanding D/Lg or D/S, by the way. It’s just so baked into our stereotypes that Littles or Subs are always and exclusively under the thumb of their top that it simply never occurs to them that as active agents with your own agenda a kinky bottom wants what you want. And it’s even less well understood, even in the kink community, that you have your own responsibilities as well as rights.
And meanwhile, yes, if we’ve been properly introduced then of course you can sit in my lap, papercut!
Look at how small that little bum of yours is, daddy can spank both your cheeks with just one hand
Ok. So soo many Littles and Subs have asked: “how can you get off on taking more responsibility during sex.” And I’ve always wondered “how could I not?” because I’m a Daddy, and a lower-case dom, and an all-around top and it’s… just… like that for me.
Well. Since I’m a top I’m equally baffled that someone would get off on someone maybe a foot taller than you taking you in hand, supporting you, bending you over and lifting your skirt and squeezing or spanking your upturned ass, opening your legs and touching you, pushing you to their knees or lifting your hips with my big strong hands because you’ve said you get off on being used “like a rag doll.”
But part of being a top is learning to listen, isn’t it? And part of being a partner is having trust and faith in you! And enjoying being together with you, doing the things we love best, and getting that we enjoy each of us giving what the other wants as much as we enjoy receiving what we want.
I don’t know why we like what we like. But I’m so glad we do. And if we can find each other and do them together? That can make the world go round, can’t it, leafhopper?
“Well, shake it up, baby, now Twist and shout Come on, come on, come, come on, baby, now Come on and work it on out You know you twist, little girl You know you twist so fine Come on and twist a little closer now And let me know that you’re mine, woo” – The Top Notes (and the Isley Brothers, the Beatles, etc.)
! Nothing to be ashamed of, is there, pumpkin? You’re a grown woman – an adult with a good education no less. So you can desperately hump aaaaanything you want to, can’t you? Nobody’s going to call you a needy, or pathetic, or tell you to stop hunching your little pussy against my leg like a stray puppy needing attention, are they?
Goodness! I’m sure I’d never tease you for something like that!
