elegantdarkwolf:

“Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.” 

― Willow Madison

There’s an awesome moment towards the end of Milan Kundera’s The Unbearable Lightness of Being where two women surprise a renowned “pickup artist” with the news that they’re about to have sex.  They tauntingly tell him if he can get an erection in 60 seconds he’ll be allowed to join them.

A minute later their laughter is heard as they close the door behind him.

In the 20th Century it was believed that men didn’t need foreplay.  We were just always ready for sex.  Here in the 21st Century we know better.  Mostly.

Sometimes, though, people mistakenly say things like “men need to hunt.”  But really, like the Kundera’s foolish player, men need foreplay too.

“The future is already here — it’s just not very evenly distributed“ – William Gibson

Do Doms like giving aftercare or is it something they have to do?

danipup:

daddysmaison:

instructor144:

Well, I can’t presume to speak for anyone but myself, but I personally love giving aftercare. Dom Followers, chime in here!

Actually my favorite part.

You’re both more appreciative of the softness after a little violence.

honestly, if I felt like the aftercare I received was obligatory, or that my Dom was doing it because he felt like he “had to”? and believe me, I would pick up on that shit like whoa.

I wouldn’t even want it.

“Aftercare” and “foreplay” are such bizarre notions once you think about it. It’s part of sex. Sex! What’s not to like?

Ahahaha!  Can’t believe anyone thinks of this as just “foreplay!”  Ahahah, no, baby princess coconut pie!  This?  This is sex!  

mytormentedwhisperedillusions:

Mmm.

Yes, please.

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Or as I like to call it, “sex.”

Never let anyone try and define sex as just the fucking bits.

Newt Gingrich and Bill Clinton both denied blowjobs were sex. Some conservative (naturally) fundamentalists deny its sex unless a man ejaculates inside somebody’s vagina.

Let’s not agree with that.

Instead let’s take it the other way and say sex can begin with a text on Wednesday saying I’m looking forward to the ride home with you after we go out on Friday night.

And everything else artificial-vanilla types dismiss as “foreplay.”

yessiraustralia-again:

Ladies,

It’s time we made a change to the status quo.

Point 1: One-for-One

For decades, guys have been getting head without eating pussy. Ladies, you can stop this. Expect a 1:1 ratio. If you gave him head last time, don’t give it to him this time, or the next time, or any time until he eats that pussy.

Point 2: Foreplay is required

Foreplay is not a special thing to do. It’s not something for her birthday or valentines. It is mandatory. If your body isn’t ready, don’t let him in. Remember the song “You’ve gotta lick it, before you stick it”?

Points 3: Eating pussy is not just foreplay

Don’t be with a quitter. Don’t settle for a man who doesn’t finish what he starts. He needs to eat you right. He needs to finish you. Not sometimes. All the fucking time! He’ll know when you’ve had enough when you either try to squash his head with your legs, or you drag him up, by his hair, to kiss your taste off his lips.

Remember, foreplay is kind of an artifact of the middle 20th Century when they “discovered” that women can come too… but really weren’t sure why 3 minutes with Teh Cock didn’t seem to do the trick when it worked so well for men.

I know, right? Total mystery! ????

But here in the 21st Century, where we’ve had nearly 60 years to work out what Masters & Johnson “discovered?”

It’s not “foreplay,” it’s SEX play! Blowjobs aren’t “foreplay” (though it can make women very horny and very wet!”) And same with eating pussy!

It’s not “foreplay,” it’s SEX!

It’s also fun as hell!

oldenoughtobeyourfather:

passionate-pleasure31:

I continued to get so close to cuming so I pulled out of my wife’s pussy. I laid back and told her let’s foreplay for a bit until we are ready to explode. She backed that sweet ass on to my face and she sucked my cock. The maid once again knocked on the door I removed my mouth from my wife’s pussy, my lips covered in her juices and moaned, “ I’m eating my wife’s pussy and she can’t answer because her mouth is full of my cock, come back later !”

“Foreplay” was basically invented in the 1960s to deal with the perceived problem of “premature ejaculation.”  The idea was that men should use “foreplay” to arouse their wives (my weren’t they prim back in the 1960s!) to better increase the chance that the Mrs. would come when “real” sex, a.k.a. penis-in-vagina intercourse began.

But there’s two ways to look at “premature ejaculation.”  And “foreplay!”

One being that, yeah, don’t start fucking till she’s seconds away from orgasm so that his quick orgasm is timed with hers.

The other, the one @passionate-pleasure31 describes in such loving detail, is using “foreplay” not just to increase her arousal but to extend his!

Seriously.  One of the best solutions for men is to stop when they’re close and start playing with their lovers again.  And letting their lovers play with them.

And don’t think for a minute that most women
 even those who aren’t the least bit submissive
  mind horribly if you say “oh god, stop
 don’t even move or I’ll come right this second!”  

Mmmm, “foreplay.”  Or as I like to call it sex!

Wanted to repost this. A meal begins with planning and ends when the last dish is clean and put away. Sex begins with the first spark and ends only when the last bit of warmth leaves the neatly remade bed, tent, or Saint Andrews cross.

To see sex otherwise is to miss most of the pleasure. In 2018 let’s acknowledge ALL of it and not just the rumpy pumpy parts in the middle. I promise we’ll all enjoy it more if we do.