Sometimes I don’t think men realize how important intimacy is before sex. Yeah like I know we are gonna fuck. But sometimes I wanna lay with you and make out and just have you touch me all over and slip a hand between my legs for a while so that after its all over I can think of the way your hands scorched across my skin. I wont ever forget.
Wait. Seriously? Pretty sure even when I was a callow, pimply-faced youth I still had sense (and sensuality… and self-respect!!!) enough to want to take my time, enjoy goddamn *sex* and not just a quick little jackrabbitery before doing… what? What else could you possibly want to do if you’ve got a warm, wonderful, naked woman next to you?
Honestly. Guys worry so much about “premature ejaculation,” and maybe they’re ashamed of themselves? Maybe they think “two-pump chimp” is a *complement?*. But fact is that stories about “blue balls” notwithstanding, the benefit of “foreplay,”. (It’s really sex) for men is it takes us longer to come, just like it help our partners take less time to come.
And puhlease don’t tell me that spending an hour kissing and being kissed, touching and being touched, holding someone and being held, licking someone and being licked, doesn’t add up to some *supreme* sexual pleasures of their own, even before you get to intercourse!
I want to sleep with you. I don’t mean have sex. I mean sleep. Together. Under my blankets. In my bed. With my hand on your chest and your arm around me. With the window cracked so it’s chilly and we have to cuddle closer. No talking, just sleepy, blissfully, happy silence.
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Well yeah? Kinky or vanilla who doesn’t deserve want this?
It’s like yeah I wanna be told what to do and held down and punished. I want to be your fucktoy and your property. Get collared and teased. But I also wanna be your cuddle buddy that you binge watch shows with and eat some junk food then fall asleep together. And when we wake up we just stare at each other knowing that we are so adorable and I can make you breakfast.
See? This is what real D/S and real kink in general is all about. A relationship where you also do kinky things. It’s not that you can’t be in your kink 24/7 – in that way it’s no different than surfers who schedule themselves around the tides or a skiers who opens their shop at 10:00 so they can always catch early morning runs in fresh powder. But even the most avid hobbyists also have a life with their partners!
Hard spankings or handcuffs, sure, but also breakfast together and yard-sales and “let’s clean up and binge the next season of Arrested Development.”
