To be honest.. if more children were shown from birth that they are loved, cared for, and listened no matter their gender we might not have some of the problems we have now. Â
Parents: Aloof disdain! Shun! Distance!
Also Parents: Why doesnât my child talk to me?
And this is what I did with my real-life children. Several times a day, sometimes when they were pre-schoolers, maybe only once or twice a year by high-school age. But it was my way of saying this is important, I know youâre scared or hurting, itâs going to be alright.
Theyâve turned out pretty well. And they call me to tell me not just about their sorrows and heartaches but their triumphs and achievements. Â
The main thing about parenting actual children, as well as being a Dom or Daddy with adult partners, is to be aware of why youâre doing what you do and who youâre doing it for. Because, yes, itâs awesome if you get something out of it too, but your responsibility for either straight up caregiving or kinky Caregiving is to do your best to make sure your children, or partners, are healthy, happy, confident, and independent. Thatâs not the same thing as âhelicoptering.â Itâs more like âwhatâs the appropriate response in this situation.â Sometimes itâs letting them figure it out for themselves, sometimes lending a hand, but always itâs about letting them be them and not yours.
Acknowledge your little and Little ones, donât praise them. Acknowledge them, donât berate them. A good dad, or Daddy, understands that itâs their world, not the other way around. Let them share it with you.
An older, experienced gentleman will pay attention and be properly impressed by your pretty outfit and pretty shoes. It would be rude not to. But heâll also find an excuse to get you out of your heels (and, um, possibly more) because thereâs a big difference between looking good and feeling good, isnât there?  Bruising kisses might be hot but bruised toes not so much, kittymittens.
*wistful sighs* Cuddling is the best. Especially when itâs full-body skin to skin contact all the way from head to toes. I could lie here atop you for hours, Daddy.
The bots might think this is lsexual contentâ but oh boy are they wrong, nougat.
âHereâs the thing about kissing. Some people kiss. They really do, they have a few moves and itâs wet and it counts as kissing and itâs fun. Iâm not knocking it by any means, itâs good stuff. But some people? Some people do more than just kiss. Itâs a rhythm, an exchange that goes much further than your mouth. Itâs an expression, a form of lovemaking. Itâs a dialogue. It leaves this ache in the middle of your chest, it leaves you throbbing in all of your neediest places. It leaves you in a haze.â
Itâs often overlooked because itâs often seen as a warmup for the âgood stuffâ but one of the very best things about heavy makeout sessions on the couch is… you know… kissing!
Imagine that! Pretty much everyone agrees that our mouths feel good when weâre kissing our partnerâs naughty bits – feels good to them, feels good to us too. But the think about mouth kissing is that unlike naughty bits their mouth kisses back! And that, friends and neighbors, feels wonderful!
