i want a partner who would let me suck on their dick/toy lazily just because i want something in my mouth at the moment. playing a game? gimme please, i wonât be in your way. reading? iâll look awful cute by your lamp light just beyond the edge of your page. lounging in bed? your tummy is soft to lay my head on so you can play with my hair and doze while youâre in my mouth. itâs a win-win, truly.
This is so me, isnât it Sir?
When I was a young man blowjobs were Just Not Done. It wasnât just that âproper ladiesâ did no such thing. (At least in the English speaking world.) Itâs that men who wanted blowjobs were suspected âlatent homosexuality!â
Thereâs a pretty wild police report from Australia in the 1960s, not only did a gang of women sex workers beat up other sex workers whoâd agree to give blowjobs, another group beat up a customer who asked for one!
Oddly, going down on women didnât have that stigma either for women who received it or men who gave. Which is awesome because I adore going down on my partners. It was one of my earliest sex fantasies. I daydream about it often. And while boundaries are still boundaries, Iâm always profoundly disappointed when a partner doesnât want me to go down on her.
And if IÂ enjoy going down on you then it shouldnât be a surprise if you, like @agenderkitten, would be as into going down on me.Â
Yeah, it can be hot and heavy. But itâs also lovely when itâs slow, lazy, and as much for comfort as coming.
Honestly the biggest reason I never got that into computer games is because, just as honestly, thereâs no game thatâs either as rewarding, as pleasurable, or as genuinely, deeply interesting as playing with a living, responsive, and continually surprising and complex human partner.
Also, with partners when you âwin a gameâ by making her come sheâll want a turn playing with you!
One of the huge mistakes people make about D/Lg is that being Little = pretending to be underage. Or that Daddies want their LIttles to act or (yuck! be) underage!
Instead D/Lg is about grown-ass adults a feeling of âcoming home to Daddy.â
Not saying thereâs anything wrong with Littles who âregress.â Not at all! Just saying that while Littles in polka dots and stickers everywhere might be more visible, most Littles are at least as likely to turn up in Daddyâs lap wearing classic heels and a little black dress.
I know thereâs way better ways of measuring sexual satisfaction and enjoyment than basic orgasm counts. And I know some people canât come, or have âsquibâ orgasms, or have terrible drops when they do. And do they enjoy edging endlessly to actually coming. And Iâm ok with that.
But if someone gives me puppy eyes Iâm always going to say yes. If I tease you itâll always be as buildup, not taunting.
Because, honestly, I donât need a partner to make me come. I can do that myself. Therefore for me a huge reward of partner sex (as opposed to partner dancing or holding hands) is making you come!
And so gratuitously denying you might frustrate me more than it would you, kittycat.
